Homecoming for LGBTQ Alumni of Wheaton College


Some of the more anti-LGBTQ, conservative media will tell you that Wheaton’s troubles with the “homosexual agenda” started back in 2006 when the Equality Ride first visited the school. The New Amerian actually remembered a great quote from a schoolwide presentation we held there attended by 1,500 folks. In response to Wheaton’s policy that essentially made even straight allies forbidden, Ride Co-Director Jake Reitan stated to the crowd:

“It is unacceptable for an institution of higher education with a reputation like Wheaton’s to suggest that a student could not, after study, thought, and prayer, come to the conclusion that homosexuality is not a sin without risking expulsion.”

Can you imagine what it’s like to be told what your theology must be in order to stay in school?

Wheaton’s evidence of LGBTQ history goes way back, though, well beyond the time of Soulforce. We applaud 600 strong members of OneWheaton who staged a direct that might seem like the most natural pursuit for alumni, but for the fact that they identify as LGBTQ or allies: they returned to their alma mater to enjoy homecoming weekend.

OneWheaton shared what it was like to be back on campus through a press release:

“This is a real coming out, being here, being ourselves,” said Frances Motiwalla, a 2000 Political Science graduate. “That’s what this weekend is all about. This was a reassertion of our whole self as part of the community.”

Motiwalla joined dozens for whom this past weekend was their first time returning to their alma mater. Most gay Wheaton alumni never return to campus, associating their college years with shame, loneliness, and marginalization. But in a show of pride and courage, over 50 rainbow clad alumni spanning the classes of ’54 through 2013 ate together in the school’s cafeteria, attended the sold-out Homecoming football game, and showed their families around campus.

They kicked off the weekend with a free concert by Jennifer Knapp, a Christian musician who recently came out as lesbian, and a panel led by LGBTQ Wheaton graduates. OneWheaton explains that most LGBTQ Wheaton alumni never return to campus because of too many negative associations and hurtful memories. This homecoming weekend, however, saw over 50 rainbow clad alumni going back to 1954 and even current students eating together in the cafeteria, attending the football game and showing friends and family around campus.

The groups explains that the weekend, besides a few stares and off-hand comments, was a success in engaging students in conversation and providing some reconciliation for alumni. Said the group’s Co-Director Ruth Wardchenk, “When I drove onto the campus Friday I was there for the first time in 15 years and I burst out in tears. I was home and I was no longer afraid.”

While the school is not officially budging on the issue yet, their impact was certainly felt on campus. Wrote one student, “Thank you for coming to campus this weekend… I don’t quite know what I think yet, but you’ve got me asking questions and thinking. So, thank you so much for coming back to Wheaton.”

Soulforce was interviewed for the TIME article that covered OneWheaton’s organizing. You can read that article here: http://www.time.com/time/nation/article/0,8599,2096426,00.html

We are glad to have played a part in groundswell of social change work, and we will continue to support them. OneWheaton is among many LGBTQ alumni networks to coalesce. If you are interested in learning more about alumni networks or want to start one, contact Haven Herrin at haven@soulforce.org.

  • http://www.facebook.com/aimee.m.sims Aimee Maude Sims

    Thank you so much for this. NuWine Press, the all inclusive

  • http://www.nuwinepress.com NuWine Press

    Thank you so much for posting this considering the rash of anti-gay rhetoric we’ve seen come out of Christian campuses. NuWine Press, the all-inclusive and LGBT-affirming voice of indie Christian publishing is always glad to see a community becoming whole, instead of dividing. We were fortunate to host Jennifer Knapp at the launch party for our first book: RAW: A Poetic Journey (Finding a Way from Conflict to Revelation) – an anthology of poetry from LGBT believers and friends around the world. Ms. Knapp wrote the foreword for our book and continues to be an outspoken voice for those who need her so much. Again thanks for sharing this article – we will share this with our friends!

  • Bill DeRoche

    I`am a 70 year old man and have been gay all my life and hiding, due to my upbring in the catholic church,(small C on purpose),  After attending a conference by Bishop Spong, I wrote a poem called the ” Statement”,  I outed myself  and finally became truly comfortable in my own skin. The poem was then used as the lead out in a conference given by Rev. Mel White. And is still used to help others who struggle. It does get better but at times it takes years. My heart goes out to all who struggle. May you find the peace you so richly deserve in the arms of the one you chose to love.
        Sincerely,  Bill DeRoche

  • David Bradley

    As a Fuller Seminary graduate, and one who had the pleasure of being there to see Mel White’s cathartic experience at Fuller and beyond, I can only tell you that the impact of those of us who are evangelical and gay in this nation IS impacting the direction of the church and the proclamation of the Gospel to the degree that ALL of us who profess faith in Jesus Christ are found to be ONE at the foot of the Cross. God’s all inclusive and unconditional love, extended to us in His Son, draws the entire Christian community to a place where we must deal with what Paul so aptly says: that there is neither male nor female, Jew nor Greek, slave nor free, and I would add, gay nor straight….In the body of Christ…we are ALL ONE in Christ Jesus….and that is the message not only of Soulforce, but of those who truly understand the meaning of GRACE. God sees us as “redeemed” through Christ’s blood; a redemption without condition or category; one based alone on His righteousness, for none of us have any of our own. May God continue to impact the world through the sacrifice of those who care enough to proclaim the truth of His all-inclusive love and redemption.

  • Dhstith

    I am so proud of you guys! My resentence to their policy was met with a request to drop out of school which I happly did. Ironicly their bible classes lead me to the acceptance of myself and a freedom in Christ I had never know. One day I will go back as you did and see the people who supported me and the others who were afraid of me.

  • Mike Herrington

    Good for you Wheaton LGBTQ alumni. I am a Baylor grad from nearly 50 years ago. We were not directly discriminated against, but it was easy to know that being gay was not acceptable. Things do gradually get better.

    Mike Herrington,Baylor, 1964

  • LINDA LEE

     WE  WHO  HAVE GRADUATED OWE IT TO THE NEXT GENERATION COMING UP TO HELP MAKE I EASIER FOR THEM.

  • Beth

    As a graduate of Bethel University I know how stifling it can be for those struggling with their sexuality while attending a “Christian” university.  While I myself am not homosexual, I consider myself an advocate and hope and pray that you are met with open and understanding arms in your homecoming.  This is something that I know can not be easy for you to face–and I know that being who God has made you to be is something that Wheaton can not take away from you.

  • http://www.facebook.com/people/Alan-Schultz/100000847744519 Alan Schultz

    Thank you for all you have. May God bless you

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