Any Single Christian Lesbians Out There

[rainbowdog]

:pray: My name is Christy. I am 33 years old. I am a single, Christian lesbian who is searching out there. I do not want to sound desparate. I mean being single does have its advantages but also it also has its disadvantages too. I am happy living on my own with my cat and dog. Like God, my pets love me unconditionally. They don't care that I am a lesbian unlike some folks in this world. But often deep down in my heart i feel something missing. If it is God's will for me to be single the rest of my life than I will accept that, but I hope God will bring me someone in my life. Just pray for me to not get discouraged.:love: :love: :love:

God Bless,
Christy:)

[Lydia]

I'll pray.

I'm also going to suggest that you visit gaychristian.net (http://www.gaychristian.net). I think you'll like it. :)

[Vanessa White]

I get discouraged at times also, that I may be without a partner in the future. I left my relationship several months ago, for many good reasons. I do have a daughter that is a total blessing, and I am grateful for that. I do love partnership and companionship, though, and hope that it will come my way again. In the meantime of your waiting, focus on you and expanding on all of the potential that you have as a human being!!! I am learning so much about myself during this time that it is amazing, exciting, and at times, very scary. Peace be with you!!!! Vanessa :love: :love: :love:

[Aminal]

Hi Christy.

Christy, just continue to love yourself, and all. You will create an 'air of a breeze' that will bring someone to you. Do not concern your self with who or when. It will happen.

Venessa, don't you be discouraged, either. You already know that you are blessed. Know that you will be blessed further.

Now, have a great life. I know you will.

[Deb]

yes to all of the above. still having a great life anyway.

[ladyinred]

Well I'm single right now. I'm not really looking at this point.. First and foremost I need to learn to love myself , and for me that has been an ongoing struggle. I need to work on my own development first. I'd been in a relationship and we are still friends. But we both realized at this point parting of ways was probably wise for now.

[ladyinred]

I'd say be happy . How about the lyrics to Natasha Bedingfield's song celebrating being single..(Change the lyrics according to your orientation..LOL) :D ;) :lol: "Single"

Ah yeah that's right
All you single people out there
This is for you

I'm not waitin' around for a man to save me
(Cos I'm happy where I am)
Don't depend on a guy to validate me
(No no)
I don't need to be anyone's baby
(Is that so hard to understand?)
No I don't need another half to make me whole

Make your move if you want doesn't mean I will or won't
I'm free to make my mind up you either got it or you don't

[Chorus:]
This is my current single status
My declaration of independence
There's no way I'm tradin' places
Right now a star's in the ascendant

I'm single
(Right now)
That's how I wanna be
I'm single
(Right now)
That's how I wanna be

Ah yeah Uh Huh that's right

Don't need to be on somebody's arm to look good
(I like who I am)
I'm not saying I don't wanna fall in love 'cos I would
I'm not gonna get hooked up just 'cos you say I should
(Can't romance on demand)
I'm gonna wait so I'm sorry if you misunderstood

[Chorus]

Everything in it's right time everything in it's right place
I know I'll settle down one day
But 'til then I like it this way it's my way
Eh I like it this way

Make your move if you want doesn't mean I will or won't
I'm free to make my mind up you either got it or you don't
'Til then I'm single

This is my current single status
My declaration of independence
There's no way I'm tradin' places
Right now a star's in the ascendant

Yep I just love her voice and music...

[pnggrad79]

Ladyinred, Christy, and Vanessa,
As a "married" lesbian (as much as one can be in Texas), I applaud you three for your stance on singleness. Too often, too many lesbians feel like that because we are in the minority, they have to latch onto the first one that comes along and it is supposed to be forever. There is too much going against us for that to be a reality. First, our families (most of us) have enough of a problem with our lesbianism, that if we had a partner, it might just do us in, or them. Secondly, unless we have "LESBIAN" tattooed on our forehead, it is difficult to know who is truly "one of us" and who is just curious. Thirdly, true love comes at great cost, with much soul searching, a lot of prayer, a lot of kissing female "frogs" before we get our princess.
I, for one, fell in love with my wife when she was 16 and I was 27, married and pregnant. Now before you start thinking this is a Lifetime movie, we fought our attraction to each other for 11 years before anything sexual happened. By that time, I was 38 and she was 27. Believe me, this love has had its tests and trials. We went through at least 4 separations, and we walked away from this relationship twice, before we both reached the conclusion that we just couldn't stay away from each other and we moved in together after my divorce and have been together 6 years, 2 of them married (in Canada, in 2004). My point to all of this is-it is ok to be single and pray for the right one. Be patient and God will lead you to your true love, if that is what you want and what He wants for you. Enjoy your singleness. (Romans 8:28) When the time is right, it will happen. Be happy.
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[tdogg]

pnggrad, you made me smile! :D

To all you single beautiful ladies out there (yes Christy, Vanessa and Ladyinred, that means all of you!)...

Love will come when you least expect it, where you least expect to find it, possibly with someone you never expected to find it with. Meanwhile, you have a chance to figure out what you really want (and don't want) in a partner, and grow even more beautiful.

Love will come to you all in perfect time. Oh yeah, and hopefully we'll be among the first to find out! :love: :D :rainbow:

[Vanessa White]

:love: It is of course, meant to be that I read this thread this morning, since yesterday I was feeling pretty low about singlehood. I am sorting out all of those overlapping feelings of being alone, feeling a connection with many of the women I meet, not necessarily making them a person I am supposed to be with, the prospect of dating, life as a single parent, being old(er) than I was last time I was single, by 10 years or more. I am embracing so many aspects of being single. The biggest part I am embracing is strengthening my inner self, fully looking in the mirror and loving what I see, dancing in my living room, drinking wine as I decorate my Christmas tree, spending time with friends that I have not spent time with in ten years. Forgiving myself and my ex for what didn't work out. One of my biggest challenges is being afraid that I won't find that person that will be fully honest and real with me. Who will want to do all of the hard work. Who will look at me with loving eyes and never tire of me. I know, it will come. I am trying my best to hold hard onto my faith and NEVER give up. And yes, Tdogg, I will be making grand proclamations here when that time does come- you men and women are my second family!!! Love ya all, Vanessa :love: :love: :love: