Man I wish I could get a date

[superhippy7890]

I know I have a lot of time., but still... It is so hard being gay in middle school right now. Everyone has a bf or gf. I am asked waaaaaaaay to often if I have a gf. It makes me uncomftorable to lie, but I don't want to be made fun of. Well back to the point of this thread, I can't meet anyone here cause I live in a smallish town and there is not a lot of other gays my age. We don't even have a local club for gay teens! I would have to go to San Francisco to go to the nearest. Sigh.:( :'(

[BenL]

The truth is most people have a hard time getting a date at your age.:( All that talk of "going out" is a lot of hype. That doesn't make it any easier to sit home and think about it though, does it?

This is the age to invest in yourself, friend. Let your light shine, and people will be attracted to you. Do well at school, and your future will be brighter for it. All parent/grandparent kind of stuff, I know, but, hey, I am old enough to be your grandfather. LOL.;)

Listen, I know how hard it is to sit home without a boyfriend to share things with. You're a bright guy, it will happen. Be patient. Meanwhile, keep sharing here. We luv ya for who you are.:love:

BenL

[superhippy7890]

thanks guys!

[Daniel]

Ditto to what's been said.

Things may open up more as you get towards- and past- highschool- where life takes on a whole different meaning and importance.

My feeling it that, for aethetically aware young gay men, which you seem to be Brian (Oscar Wilde is a worthy model for anyone considering the Arts!), their antenna can be looking much further ahead than their peers.

"Make haste slowly."

This works in Art as in Life.

Find out what you really love- and I mean love- to do (not just please your parents etc) and stick with it.

Of course, you want love in you life, but having interests and work that you really care about will make you all that more attractive because you'll be happy with yourself.

[superhippy7890]

What does aethetically mean? But thanks all the same

[marutidas]

I feel your pain, I live in Stigler, OK.
Population 1,000 and about 15 churches, I feel your pain. All the Gays here are forced into "the Closet" by lots of Bible thumpers. Except me. People pretty much leave me alone. There always good and understanding people where ever you go, you just have to look for them. Let you personality shine through and just be good to people and they will respect you, even if you have a difference of opinion. Well it work that way in most cases.

But nothing last forever, Suffering is temperence, You may have to deal with right now, and if you need to vent, Come here and we'll lend you an ear. I cant unfortunaly think of any online Gay Teen Sites you could visit.

Keep us posted
~~~Maruti Das:flower:

[superhippy7890]

Cool. Yeah my town is in the bay area, but it dosn't have all that many gay teens my age. I don't think I have met a single person!

[superhippy7890]

but he said aethetically

[keltic63]

but he said aethetically

Daniel thinks faster than he types and occasionally has typo troubles. the word is "aesthetically"

aes·thet·ic or es·thet·ic http://img.tfd.com/hm/pron.gif (http://javascript%3Cb%3E%3C/b%3E:play%28%27E0220700%27%29) (http://img.tfd.com/hm/GIF/ebreve.gifs-thhttp://img.tfd.com/hm/GIF/ebreve.gifthttp://img.tfd.com/hm/GIF/prime.gifhttp://img.tfd.com/hm/GIF/ibreve.gifk)adj.1. Relating to the philosophy or theories of aesthetics.
2. Of or concerning the appreciation of beauty or good taste: the aesthetic faculties.
3. Characterized by a heightened sensitivity to beauty.
4. Artistic: The play was an aesthetic success.
5. Informal Conforming to accepted notions of good taste.

n.1. A guiding principle in matters of artistic beauty and taste; artistic sensibility: "a generous Age of Aquarius aesthetic that said that everything was art" William Wilson.
2. An underlying principle, a set of principles, or a view often manifested by outward appearances or style of behavior: "What troubled him was the squalor of [the colonel's] aesthetic" Lewis H. Lapham.

[German ästhetisch, from New Latin aesthhttp://img.tfd.com/hm/GIF/emacr.gifticus, from Greek aisthhttp://img.tfd.com/hm/GIF/emacr.giftikos, of sense perception, from aisthhttp://img.tfd.com/hm/GIF/emacr.gifta, perceptible things, from aisthanesthai, to perceive; see au- in Indo-European roots.]
aes·thethttp://img.tfd.com/hm/GIF/prime.gifi·cal·ly adv.
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I believe Daniel was saying that you possess an awareness of arts and beauty that few your age possess. Because you are more mature than other guys, it may take longer to find a boyfriend than your straight friends to find their girlfriends.

[Daniel]

What does aethetically mean?

The root word is aesthetic.


aes·thet·ic or es·thet·ic (?s-th?t'?k)
adj.

Relating to the philosophy or theories of aesthetics.
Of or concerning the appreciation of beauty or good taste: the aesthetic faculties.

Characterized by a heightened sensitivity to beauty.
Artistic: The play was an aesthetic success.

Informal. Conforming to accepted notions of good taste.
n.

1. A guiding principle in matters of artistic beauty and taste; artistic sensibility: “a generous Age of Aquarius aesthetic that said that everything was art” (William Wilson).

2. An underlying principle, a set of principles, or a view often manifested by outward appearances or style of behavior: “What troubled him was the squalor of [the colonel's] aesthetic” (Lewis H. Lapham).


One should also consider the meaning of aesthetics.


aes·thet·ics or es·thet·ics (?s-th?t'?ks)
n.
1. (used with a sing. verb)
a. The branch of philosophy that deals with the nature and expression of beauty, as in the fine arts.
b. In Kantian philosophy, the branch of metaphysics concerned with the laws of perception.

2. (used with a sing. verb) The study of the psychological responses to beauty and artistic experiences.

3. (used with a sing. or pl. verb) A conception of what is artistically valid or beautiful: minimalist aesthetics.

4. (used with a sing. or pl. verb) An artistically beautiful or pleasing appearance: “They're looking for quality construction, not aesthetics” (Ron Schram).

Your 'main man', Oscar Wilde, was a prominent lecturer during the Aesthetic Era (1870-1880)

http://www.fashion-era.com/aesthetics.htm

[Daniel]

Daniel thinks faster than he types and occasionally has typo troubles. the word is "aesthetically"

Oh so generous and oh so true. I'll probably have to correct this later!

I believe Daniel was saying that you possess an awareness of arts and beauty that few your age possess. Because you are more mature than other guys, it may take longer to find a boyfriend than your straight friends to find their girlfriends.

That's it exactly.

Steve- how is it that we both posted at the same time? I clicked my post into being and saw yours there ahead of mine. How'd that happen? :)

[keltic63]

Steve- how is it that we both posted at the same time? I clicked my post into being and saw yours there ahead of mine. How'd that happen? :)

what can I say? great minds and all that?

[superhippy7890]

oh ok i get it. Thank You!

[tpdncr4christ]

but, they are not nessiscary. I wouldn't go looking for a guy, because when you do you'll both jump for it, and it probably won't work, and you could both get hurt. Just chill out and relax, I'm sure there will be more cuties than you can count by time your ready to leave.

[superhippy7890]

Gee, I really never gave all that much thought to being hurt by another gay guy before, I thought Iabgout being rejected, but not brreakup pains or anything like that. I guess I do need more time.

[superhippy7890]

bump for the first and last time

[Daniel]

Gee, I really never gave all that much thought to being hurt by another gay guy before, I thought Iabgout being rejected, but not brreakup pains or anything like that. I guess I do need more time.

You could turn this inside out too: think a bit about how the other guy might feel.

This is the heart of nonviolence, which is, not primarily thinking what what one wants, but holding in the mind and heart the good of everyone involved.

Your feelings are a signpost, not a destination.

[snuka12000]

I know that it is difficult. I have been there and I am there. Keep your eyes open! Even in your small town, there are alot of gay guys around you.

[superhippy7890]

true that, Daniel, true that