Hey, I'm Tink!

[Tinkerbell047]

Hello everyone! I'm Tink, and I'm so glad I've found these forums. I've been looking for a place that I can talk through my own feelings about homosexuality and Christianity to be able to better understand and help my friends who are struggling with this very problem as well.

-Tink

[Jamie McDaniel]

Hi Tink! I saw where you posted another thread (http://www.soulforce.org/forums/showthread.php?t=2115) about your family, so I will ask my question there. For this one, I'll just say HELLO!. We're glad to have you and I look forward to reading your posts.

[scorpiogirl]

Hello Tinkerbell! Hope we can be of some help to you!

[Zerbie]

Hi Tink,

I've seen some of your posts, but don't think I said an official 'welcome' til now. :)

Good luck with the complex family situation. I don't know what to advise, so I'm keeping my big mouth shut (at least for the moment.) Just know that I care and hope things resolve between you, your brother, your parents, and extended family.

Are you a younger sister? Or older? I'm just curious as to whether you still live with your parents and interact with them every day in close quarters. Things are very different once you're in your own living space.

[Tinkerbell047]

Hi Tink,

I've seen some of your posts, but don't think I said an official 'welcome' til now. :)

Good luck with the complex family situation. I don't know what to advise, so I'm keeping my big mouth shut (at least for the moment.) Just know that I care and hope things resolve between you, your brother, your parents, and extended family.

Are you a younger sister? Or older? I'm just curious as to whether you still live with your parents and interact with them every day in close quarters. Things are very different once you're in your own living space.

I'm a younger sister. Actually, I'm the middle child. ^_^

[BruceChris]

Welcome to our place here. :) :agree: :wave:

Peace and Love, Bruce Chris

[BruceChris]

Hi, Tink, I just went back, and read all of your posts. I think that one opinion expressed here sounds accurate, that your parents are expressing their fear. This often tends to make a person conservative, and need to have something absolute and infallable to believe in.

It would also be useful to know approximately where you live. In the Bible belt? In a small community? If you have access to a large city, there are many resources available to you, and your brother. PFLAG, more liberal churches, and if there is a university, a Women's Studies department. Try to be discrete, to not upset your parents.

For your parents, I think it would help to try to make them feel that life is good, and that there is little to fear. Their faith in God probably would help here. Try to stay out of conversations about your brother, or steer the conversation away from being about him, if you can.

Let your brother know that you accept him, and love him, and perhaps direct him toward resources that may help him find his place in the world.

Now I have been offering an awful lot of my own beliefs here, so use your own judgement, try to get advice from people that you trust, and maybe we can get some of the other members to comment more.

I would hope that all of the advice that I've thrown out here would fall under the heading of just being a good Christian.

Peace and Love, Bruce Chris

[Vanessa White]

Welcome to the forums. It seems like you are already receiving a lot of support and encouragement here. You can depend on that from us. We are like an extended family. Peace be with you and your family, Vanessa:love: