another website for healing..

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http://www.coping.org/innerhealing/repar.htm this site is extensive on good ways for handling a variety of problems and inner healing and reparenting yourself.:love:

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this is a good article on self esteem. I'm going to present an idea from the Course in Miracles as well which is based on Christianity and the teachings of Christ..(Which defines mental health as inner peace and self acceptance) and this will help debunk reparative therapy myths.. From the Course's standpoint ,mental illness of any kind can be a view of the self as evil, weak, vulnerable and endangered and therefore in need of constant defense.. It says this is a prevailing image of people who don't have a healthy idea about who they are or a positive concept of themselves. read this article on self esteem and mental health to follow.. From what I stated about the course , this would be congruent with the APA research that your sexual orientation does not need to change, but how you view and see your self as a person who lacks self esteem about who you are. We all have many misperceptions about ourselves which are often influenced by our parents,religion and culture. Basically sick religion and sick culture have helped foster these unhealthy beliefs and ideas..The course doesn't define people as sick, but states they need to lay aside the sick ideas they have about themselves. Article on self esteem:Low Self Esteem can be cured! Here is how

A poor sense of self esteem can be beaten. Low self esteem cannot survive if you follow what I have to say: Believe it, I have done it and you can too.

You can begin living a life filled with more happiness and meaning now!

Poor self esteem can be unlearnt so take heart!

Low Self Esteem - Here's what to do:

Low self esteem feeds on negative messages and thoughts so Don't indulge in self criticism. Why are you joining the other side to wage war against yourself? Silence your inner judge.

You can choose to please yourself before others. It is considerate when you care about others feelings but aren't your needs just as important? Don't neglect yourself!

Don't try to be like someone else. This leads to lack of self worth and confidence. You are unique and you cannot be someone else. Strive to be better yes but don't criticise yourself for not being as successful, as beautiful, as slim or as popular as somone else. You deserve better.


Take life and yourself less seriously. Failure just means you are not successful YET. Everybody fails on their way to succeeding, don't look on it as failure but as a means to learning. Perhaps you just need a change of direction. Problems can make you stronger if you strive to overcome them.
Self worth, confidence and assuredness will increase when you Focus on your needs and desires. You deserve to live life as you want. This is not selfishness as what you want doesn't hurt others or prevent them from living life on their terms.

Focus on your successes. Lack of confidence feeds on your feelings of failure and inadequacy. Remember the truly successful things you have done in your life. Reward yourself when you do succeed.
read my review - FREE self confidence course I found really useful


Use positive affirmations and quotes. Read them every day or when you are feeling negative and need inspiration. Click here for a list of affirmations



Use visualisation to achieve your dreams and increase your self esteem!

Try this amazing self hypnosis download - Building your self esteem now!


Focus on your strengths. Use them. You will succeed if you are true to yourself.

Develop and work at achieving your goals. If you do this your confidence will increase and you will feel positive.

Your self criticism will die to nothing as you will know even if you do not succeed you tried all you could. Do your best at everything you try.

Feed your brain. Read inspiring books - they will really help you. Not just any books though, read the best. Check out my selection of awesome titles, you'll be glad you did....click now!

The above suggestions are steps you can take on the road to becoming more confident and successful in your daily life. If you start on this road you need to keep at it. Others will sometimes knock you down so you need to be strong and listen to your heart. Believing in yourself is all about focusing on your strengths. You must be honest with yourself and being true to your feelings and thoughts is the best way to live your life. Don't pretend to be anything that you're not and don't listen to other's who try to convince you that you are wrong. trust your intuition and your feelings to make the right decisions and decide today which direction you want to go. I wish you success!
Recommended Books - buy from Amazon.com

#1 Breaking the chain of low self esteem Marilyn Sorensen

also highly recommended buy the Personal workbook for Breaking the Chain of Self Esteem

#2 Low Self-Esteem Misunderstood & Misdiagnosed by Marilyn J., Ph.D. Sorensen, Marilyn Sorenson Elaine Sheehan

#3 Warning Signs : A Guidebook for Parents : How to Read the Early Signals of Low Self-Esteem, Addition, and Hidden Violence in Your Kids
by John Kelly, Brian J. Karem

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a posting from my dear friend Rachel..
Making mistakes
++++++++++++ +++++++

Mistakes are valuable reminders that you do not know it all.
And as such, they provide golden opportunities to learn.

Mistakes are a sure sign that you're making progress. For
When you make mistakes, it means you are putting forth
Effort and having an influence.

Mistakes are certainly no cause for shame. The greatest
Achievements require you to work your way through the
Greatest errors and misunderstandings.

Mistakes are not to be feared. For the same actions that
Enable you to make a mistake also put you in a position to
Correct it.

When you're willing to accept the possibility of mistakes,
You're able to follow the best opportunities. When you
Become experienced at handling mistakes, you'll be skilled
At creating real value.

Success comes not from avoiding all mistakes, but from
Learning to find a positive way forward no matter what may
Happen. With each mistake, get over it, get wisdom from it,
And become even more effective than you were before.



Keep one thing in view forever- the truth; and if you do this,
though it may seem to lead you away from the opinion of men, it
will assuredly conduct you to the throne of God.










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