Rick

[ukricky]

I am a new member and am in the need of support from those that feel can help me.

I am a Christian and just recently admitted to myself and a few others that I am gay. The conflict I am experiencing is not with my faith but with the fact that I have been married for 34 year and still am. My wife does not know, or she does and hasn't mentioned it. I have 3 grown children.

I'm searching for those that can relate, share their experiences, etc.

Thanks so much. Rick.

[u-dog]

HeyRick,

Welcome to Soulforce. I also am a married gay man. I am out to my wife of 20+ years but not to our grown children. If you want to PM me we can "talk"

Dave

[keltic63]

and me!

2 different paths here between u-dog and myself, but I think we can cover most questions you might have.


I bet she knows, btw. she just doesn't want to have it confirmed.

[Zerbie]

Hi Rick and welcome.

I haven't been in your situation, but Keltic and Dave both have, and made very different choices in where to go from there. I recommend reading their stories and chatting with them a bit. They are great guys.

If you're looking for something more structured, perhaps a support group or something of the sort, there are things out there to be found. You might try a google search on terms like 'mixed orientation marriage,' or 'straight spouses.' There's a lot floating around the internet (and if you browse a bookstore with a decent gay/lesbian section, I'm sure you'll also find good print material) that can help you put your situation into a larger perspective and make choices you will be comfortable living with.

I wish you and your wife the best however this resolves. :pray:

[andrewlittle]

I will start a thread entitled "Who's entitled to be called gay?"

I will copy the posts from Joe on down into that thread as the starters. That way, if someone should care to continue this discussion, it doesn't have to be at the expense of Rick who, after all, came looking for words of support and and uplifting presence.

Rick, I do not have the experiences you are confronted with, but I am offering a willing ear and open heart should you need one. Please be assured that most of us here will embrace and support you in your walk.

I wish for you God's blessings and the presents of all the saints you need to accompany you on your the rest of your journey.

[Daniel]

Rich- Welcome to Soulforce. My heart goes out to you! And even though I do not share your particular situation (I have been openly gay for a long time), I remember what it felt like to be in the closest- no fun that. In that, I can relate. I send you much blessing and peace.

[belladonnacordial]

Just wanted to say hello and welcome you to the forum. This is a great place! I know a lot of people here, unlike myself, will relate to your situation from personal experience. They will give you a whole lot of support and understanding. For what it may be worth, you have mine as well.

My love to you and your family, Donna

[keltic63]

I will start a thread entitled "Who's entitled to be called gay?"


The relevant posts have been moved to the thread that Andy started: http://www.soulforce.org/forums/showthread.php?t=2279

[scott snedeker]

No matter where you start you can fork in the right direction.

The first step I think should be to connect with the unconditional love of self. Many folks here are eager to suggest ways of how to do this. Ways that have worked for them.

Homophobia disconnected us from our belief that our entitlement to live true to our deepest passionate nature is a given. Reconnecting is possible, and I believe, essential.


These are steps in the Emotional journey that enable you to make your Action journey with more confidence.

My connection is facilitated by listening to Abraham (www.abraham-hicks.com) ,Healing meditation from my Reiki circle, and daily private meditation that focuses my thought on unconditional love of self and others.

I am part of a circle of lovers. We are our own true family of brothers held together by love. I am living my first best destiny.