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03-08-2007, 06:52 PM
Hi there everybody I am Matt and I used to be gay but now I have repented my sinful ways but I still have a freind who is gay and I am hoping that he will repent as well he is realy atractive and uses IMVU and also has been gay all his life so he is single also his name is Damien and for those of u that have IMVU his good looking avatar is named well I forget it my email is Romanov114 and i am very personal about my life I think that people hatting gays is wrong and umm gayness is a sin on it's own sorry people:( but yeah for those of you who are gay please try to repent
03-08-2007, 07:32 PM
Hi Matthew, welcome to the soulforce forums.
That's an interesting introduction. You're going the ex-gay route? I'm sure you've done all the research, right?
You sound a little conflicted though. I'm surprised that you'd rave about how goodlooking your gay friend is when you're really trying to go straight. I mean, if I'm on a diet, I'm not going to stand outside the pizza shop and press my face to the window.
Care to talk about that? there are plenty of people here who are willing to listen, and offer advice!
03-08-2007, 07:33 PM
Can you explain what you mean when you say that you "used to be gay" but you repented? Do you mean that you used to be attracted to other men but are now attracted sexually to women? Or do you mean that you used to have sex with other men but now you don't?
03-08-2007, 08:20 PM
Erm, well, hi, welcome. Interesting introduction.
I'm sorry you fear that your friends might go to Hell for being gay, and sorry if a fear like that has pushed you into an effort to censor your own feelings and experiences. I'm sorry you felt the need to "repent" of being gay. Having feelings of infatuation, attraction, arousal, love, companionship, is absolutely a normal part of human life - and they are wonderful feelings to experience. I'm sorry you felt that your feelings were wrong. :(
Now Matthew - I won't tell you to please try and come out of the closet, and I request in turn that you please not ask the gay people on this forum to try and 'repent' of being gay. People will follow their own paths on their own time, and some will make different decisions from others.
Whatever your journey has been that led you to this moment, I hope that you have found inner peace, and that it is lasting. . . whether that means being gay, not-gay-anymore, straight, something else - whatever. But I do ask that you not try to pressure anyone - either your friend the good-looking Damien, or members of this forum - to feel guilt or shame for their sexuality. Homosexuality is nothing to be ashamed of. Neither is heterosexuality.
And another request, if you continue posting: punctuation would be terrific. It's hard to read a run-on sentence. ;) Thanks.
03-08-2007, 10:14 PM
There is no repenting for one's nature here. Requests for you or any of us to do so is spiritual abuse and not permitted. So many gay people suffer self condemnation that generalizes to others. So many of us start where you are needing healing to reconnect with unconditional love of self.
We are here to help you love your gay nature if you are ready.
I see Love without unconditional acceptance of your nature as spiritual poison. My God does not poison me.
I'm gay and so is my god. Making love to other men pleases him. For me to repent my living true to my nature would dishonor his plan for me. I know this because I feel his presence when I am making love.
Your inner being loves you. Your attraction to other men is God's gift. Even if you don't believe it, He does. God created you gay so that you can love another of his gay children who needs you.
When you learn unconditional love of yourself, All fear and discomfort of your nature will fade and connection to love of self will lead to love and rejoicing in the gay nature of others.:love:
Speak your words with love. If you believe in christ you know he loves unconditionally, not love tainted with condemnation . :disagree:
I am a Druidic Pagan who embraces the message of Christ. I see him as merely human yet possessing a unique genius, seeing love in eveyone.
Love and accept all unconditionally.:dove:
Simple and pure. Even a pagan can feel it:lol:
Be kind to your soul.
03-08-2007, 11:24 PM
Welcome to Soulforce, Matt! :wave:
You'll find respectful folks here of many spiritual paths. What you're not likely to find is anyone who views being gay as a sin. I certainly don't. Being gay is a gift from God that i give thanks for every day.
i would like to learn about what brings you to Soulforce & more about your journey in faith, if you are willing to share. :dove:
03-08-2007, 11:59 PM
I'm glad you're here.
03-09-2007, 09:45 AM
Welcome brother! There are quite a few of us here who have went the "ex-gay" route. We all worked through it and came through with our orientation AND our spirituality in tact. Don't push it though...God will lead you where you need to be.
I'm now happily partnered 22 years to a wonderful guy. We are active Quakers and devout Christians.
Remember, a Christian is someone who follows Jesus...not someone who bases his or her salvation (or lack thereof) on behavior. Its all about grace friend.
03-09-2007, 10:57 AM
hello Matt and welcome to soulforce.
I am intrested though why you joind a forum of an organization that tries to show that you can't change being gay when you said that you changed. oh well I am excited to hear more from you!
03-09-2007, 03:51 PM
There are a lot of people here who have made a lot of friends here, even I've made one or two. People here are of many different beliefs, and we discuss them often, but try not to disrespect anyone else's beliefs. The Golden Rule, and the Great Commandment, that sort of thing. :) :wave: :agree:
Wecome to our forums.
Peace and Love, Bruce Chris
PS: - What is IMVU?
03-10-2007, 12:41 PM
My name is Matthew. I was involved in the Ex-Gay movement for years, was married for 8 years, fully repented of my "sin." Went through years of bible study,counseling, prayer, deliverance, you name it!! You may stay an ex-gay, or you may come to terms with your homosexuality one day and accept it. Whatever you choose, you are welcome here regardless. I am still a Christian. I have not changed my views on who Jesus is, I just know that the scriptures of Homosexuality need to be truely studied by all Christians. Those scriptures have been taken out of context for centuries. Many topics are taken out of context for that matter.
I hope others in this group will welcome you and have respect for you and your views. God bless you Matt!
03-10-2007, 02:57 PM
Welcome. I hope you aren't here trying to bait anybody.
We all fall short of the mark, but God's mercy is as wide as the sea. The fullest life is a spiritual life of repentance. But being made gay is nothing one need repent of!
Maybe you also liked girls, and you can make a choice in the matter. For most of us the choice is either to live alone or to share our lives with another we find ourselves attracted to. I think a life of celibacy dedicated to others is admirable, but it is not everyone's calling. God made us so that we can live full lives, and an intimate relationship is part of that life. There is never anything sinful in loving another person. On the other hand, all relationships are sinful at times, because we are all sinners!
Peace be with you brother.
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