Ouija Boards

[tpdncr4christ]

What are they? And how do they work? My... ex I suppose, Mike, broke up with me because one told him to... Anyone want to explain to me how a peice of card board can make descisions for people?

[u-dog]

Sorry to hear about your heartache Austin. That totally sucks!:'( :love: :'(

A Ouija board is ... how to put this politely... a crock of s***? it is a small piece of wood (maybe 4"x6"?) on three little legs that is moved around a board on which is printed the alphabet and short answers like "Yes" and "No" Two or more people place their fingertips on the "pointer thingy" and then someone asks a question "Should I break up with Austin" Supposedly no one can control the answer because everyone has equal control of the pointerthingy. Therefore it must be "the spiritual realm" answering the question... right? Its a parlour trick basically but some people actually believe in them.

So either Mike needed an excuse to break up with you and thought this would make it easier for you to hear, or he actually believes in this crap and broke up with a totally great guy because the "spirits" told him to.

Either way... the kid is dumber than a box of rocks.

I shouldn't be so hard on him I guess. Love and relationships are hard things to navigate under the best of circumstances, Austin, and being gay and still in High School are not the best of circumstances. He may have just begun to feel like he was in over his head... or that things were moving too fast for him... or he may have been feeling pressure from some outside source... who knows.

You didn't ask for advice... but I'm old and can't help myself. here's my advice: Don't slam any doors behind you. If Mike broke up with you because he is feeling overwhelmed (by fear of a future as a gay man / by the unknown and uncharted territory that love represents // or whatever) he may have acted impulsively. Give him a week to process and then meet him for coffee or a coke or something and talk to him about his decision and the real reasons behind them. At the very least you'll learn something and you may save a good friendship or ... who knows... be able to resume your relationship.

Just the opinion of one old guy.

All the best Austin, your Soulforce friends are praying for you :pray: :love:

[andrewlittle]

I can't beat Grandpa Dave's explanation or advice. I just want you to know that I will pray for you and Mike both - hoping that at least something positive can emerge.

Sorry for your pain, Austin.

[Diane Vera]

A Ouija board is ... how to put this politely... a crock of s***? it is a small piece of wood (maybe 4"x6"?) on three little legs that is moved around a board on which is printed the alphabet and short answers like "Yes" and "No" Two or more people place their fingertips on the "pointer thingy" and then someone asks a question "Should I break up with Austin" Supposedly no one can control the answer because everyone has equal control of the pointerthingy. Therefore it must be "the spiritual realm" answering the question... right? Its a parlour trick basically but some people actually believe in them.

I would add that even if there is any genuine spirit contact, there's still no reason to regard the spirit as infallible, any more than one would expect a random human stranger to give infallible advice.

So, obeying the dictates of a Ouija board is still just a way of abdicating responsibility for one's own decision-making, it seems to me.

[Alecto]

I would add that even if there is any genuine spirit contact, there's still no reason to regard the spirit as infallible, any more than one would expect a random human stranger to give infallible advice.

So, obeying the dictates of a Ouija board is still just a way of abdicating responsibility for one's own decision-making, it seems to me.

I was looking for a way to say that, but couldn't find the words (seems to be a trend with me today :-/). So thank you.

Also, I just thought I'd let you know I giggle a little bit when I see "satanic panic" because I start singing "Sweet Transvestite" in my head. I'm exploring the website now.

[HarmlessEccentric]

Pretty much... it's your own hands moving the planchette. If the Ouija board told him to dump you, it's because his brain sent the signal to his hands that it should say so.

Probably well rid of anyone who would make major life decisions based on this, anyway. Imagine when he starts running the family finances by astrology...

[Zerbie]

I'm sorry Austin. :(

Big hugs! :love: :love: :love:

[tdogg]

Austin,

Mike sounds like he has some maturing to do - no matter whether he believes in the spirituality of the Ouija Board or just using that as an excuse.

It's really hard, but sometimes you have to let go for a while and let someone grow at their own pace. If it's meant to be you'll be reunited. If not, believe in yourself. You are an amazing young man with many talents and wonderful characteristics, mature, intelligent, funny - oh yeah, and a real cutie. This experience will at the very least help you on your growth journey, until you finally meet the man who is meant to be yours.

Take care, it will be ok. Here's some hugs for you {{{:love: :love: }}}, and a shoulder to cry on a bit if you need it :'( :wave: (ok, that's the closest thing I can see for a shoulder). So, spend some time smelling the wildflowers :flower: :flower2: and listening to the birds :dove: (could we get a couple more bird icons?), then read a good book or two :reading: , put on some music (or better yet sing!) :sing: . Finally, get some good therapy in a few chocolate chip cookies :cookie: :cookie: , get up and take a walk :running: and give yourself a hand :applause: . Cause, Austin, you are a real winner! :award:

Hope you are feeling up to par real soon! :love:

[Jan]

I'm so sorry to hear of your recent heart break Austin! I too am going through a break up. I will pray that love, peace and understanding will find their way to your heart ASAP!

Hang in there you! :pray: :love:

[pnggrad79]

My wife likes that show "A Haunting" and "Supernatural". I don't know about all this, but I think we mess with stuff we have no business messing with. I believe in other worldly spirits, and I also believe that we shouldn't mess with them. Curiosity is one thing, making life altering decisions is another. I am sorry about your loss, but Mike needs to grow up and quit basing his decisions on a piece of cardboard. Move on, he wasn't worth the cardboard he made his decision on! My two cents....

[Daniel]

Austin- I'm so sorry your beau has broken up with you. My heart goes out to you.

Ouija boards may be crap as Uncle Dave suggests, but my opinion is that they are also very dangerous. Using them, as Diane has also mentioned, is like the random dialing any ol' number on a phone- you just never know who you are going to get on the other end of the line.

I've known a few people into spiritualism and they stay away from such things, considering the ouija board a very crude tool for divination.

Better to sit quietly and look inside oneself for answers. Which is what you will need to do to respond to this situation.

The Kingdom is Within- as the scripture says- not in a board game.

[Vanessa White]

Austin: I am also keeping you in my thoughts, because you are going through a loss no matter how Mike came to his decision. BUt I definitely agree with Daniel, that things of this nature, such as a Ouija board, are not to be messed with unless someone really knows what they are doing. It may be a joke, and it is definitely not a good reason to give a person for breaking up with him/her, but there can be power in such vehicles that a person should be knowledgable in before tampering with. Hang in there, feel your feelings, and be good to yourself. I am so glad that you found your way to us. Peace and love, Vanessa :love: :love: :pray: :love:

[Rick336]

Austin,

Sorry to hear about your recent break up. I know that losing someone you love can be tough.

But it's absurd for your ex to take advice from a Ouija board. If he broke up with you because a Ouija board told him to then he's got a lot of maturing to do.

Ouija boards are made from cardboard and plastic. They can't make decisions or give advice. There is absolutely no evidence that invisible spirits are floating around influencing life decisions through manufactured objects.

Solving problems in relationships should be handled through reason and rational thought based on reality not superstitious nonsense. Your ex-boyfriend needs to grow up.

Rick