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BenL
03-20-2007, 12:58 PM
Alecto said in a post on the Cal Lutheran thread:
And, ultimately, I'd be a lot happier if I was somewhere that was accepting (or even just "tolerant") because they thought about it and it made sense for them to be rather than someone who was "forced" to be.

It got me thinking about the stages of acceptance GLBT people have to negotiate as society and its institutions work their way to total acceptance. I think this addresses the heart of the Equality Ride mission.

The Riders are visiting colleges where homosexual acts are considered sinful and where students who come out or who are outed are subject to being expelled. The Riders are trying to break through a belief system that condemns homosexuality. The Riders are trying to bring about a reassessment that will result in tolerance at best and neutrality at the very least in the admissions policies of these colleges.

Tolerance beats outright hostility, but I'm tired of just being tolerated. There's a long road from tolerance to begrudging acceptance to being embraced and affirmed to a place where it no longer matters that you are queer. Our African American sisters and brothers know that road well, and we can take some cues from them, I think. They founded all-black colleges when it seemed impossible for their children to break the color barrier and get an education in mainstream schools. Now those same mainstream schools are trying to recruit African American faculty members in order to better represent the general population on their staffs. There is still a long way to go before our society is color blind, but for some African Americans it almost doesn't matter any more. We have made progress, with still a ways to go.

The GLBT community has a different situation. Most of us can masquerade as straight. We don't have the numbers (especially of out GLBT people) to found our own institutions. We have access, at least in urban areas, to jobs and housing, but we still have to be careful not to put ourselves in pyhsically dangerous situations. Many political subdivisions have anti-discrimination laws. Many employers have similar personnel policies. But people can be fired, or not hired, for other reasons without mentioning their sexual orientation or gender expression.

We're far from a point where it doesn't matter. I think as a society we're at a point on the scale somewhere between hostility and gruding acceptance. It's only in certain geographic areas, certain occupations and certain religious organizations that we have much more than that.

Without people on the front lines, like the Equality Riders, the process of acceptance will never get started in some of the colleges they are visiting. I think we owe them a debt of gratitude.

Rick336
03-20-2007, 02:44 PM
Without people on the front lines, like the Equality Riders, the process of acceptance will never get started in some of the colleges they are visiting. I think we owe them a debt of gratitude.

Very well said Ben. I agree.

James Dobson and Focus on the Family are misleading millions of good people into believing we are lonely, depressed, self-hating, suicidal, perverted, child predators. The greatest way to fight these lies is to let Americans see for themselves who we really are and what we are about. Courage and character are vital to achieving acceptance and equality. The actions of the Equality Riders demonstrate the values of self-respect, honesty, and integrity as examples for others to follow.

Rick Hunter
Winston-Salem, NC

Tinkerbell047
03-20-2007, 03:49 PM
I agree completely. It's a horrible situation we are put in on a daily basis from anti-gay peoples and organizations.

I have felt for a long time that if more of us would stand up and admit to being gay that we could make strides far larger than we are making now. Some studies show that up to 18 percent of the population might not be straight! However, some numbers show only 3-5% but the point is, if just half of those people who are still hiding their true and honest selves would come out, and those who are out but bystanders in the issues would stand up and demand a changes with the rest of us, then the time it will take for people to fully accept us will lessen.

I have heard conservatives ask many times "why do they need parades and 'gay pride days' and other activities?" Or, my personal favorite, "Why are they allowing the queers to have 'Rainbow Day' at the ball park?" <<Gotta love the Texas Rangers! At first I didn't understand, but after watching and learning about MKLJr. and Ghandi I realize that it's never been about flaunting who we are, but about calling for a change in society so that we are treated equally. I don't understand why the rest of the society sees us as people so wrapped up in ourselves that we can't be productive members of our society.

God bless the Equality Riders.

-Tink