Help, pretty please!

[Casey]

Ok... some of you may know my story by my intro when i first became a memeber about a week ago, but if not its basically: I had the love of my life, she broke-up with me because she couldnt take being "wrong" (against the Bible) anymore, i havent stopped crying since and its just a big mess... Fuuuuuuuuuun, right?

Well the reason i need help is because she might listen to me about reconcidering our break-up status if i can come up with logical reasons why... Ive been reading a lot from this site, but i think i need help from yall who are more experienced. Yeah me = 17... not so much experience in this area...

I hope to hear from someone! :pray:

[Zerbie]

She's gotta make the decision for herself. Or it could end being a back and forth type thing for a long time.

Having said that, you are welcome to share my story with her, the one I posted on your intro thread. Just for perspective.

[BrentRichards]

Not to be a fly in the ointment ... but please be very careful about trying to change her mind in order to get her back. By all means, talk to her about the truth, and if you end up together again one day, wonderful. But I'd be very hesitant to tie the two together. I'm afraid you could be setting yourself up for another fall ... if she "changes her mind" to get back together with you, what happens when another "more convincing argument" comes down the pike later, and she again questions whether it is right? Will she drop you again? I'd need to be sure she's made peace with her sexuality on her own terms before stepping back into a relationship with her. I'm sure this isn't what you'd like to hear, and obviously I don't know your situtation in any great detail, but this is the red flag that goes up for me.

In evangelical circles, Christians are often cautioned about getting into a relationship with someone at a significantly different spiritual maturity level than themselves... be that good or bad, I wonder if something similar isn't true for us in the LGBT community ... if we become involved with someone who isn't more or less "at the same place" as us in terms of self-affirmation, coming out, etc., I fear we may be setting ourselves up for big heartbreaks.

Man, am I a buzzkill. Don't be mad! Please!

[Casey]

:) How could i be mad? You are completely right, both of you! i just... this is the hardest thing ive ever had to do in my life and feel like im being ripped apart... but i know yall are right. I love her, but if we do get back together i need to be sure that she is in the totally in this with me because i dont think i could do this all again.

Thank you! I knew that i would get help! :love:

[BrentRichards]

:) this is the hardest thing ive ever had to do in my life and feel like im being ripped apart...

I'm so sorry! It's a bad feeling, I know. None of us can make that any better. Just know that you will survive -that's not supposed to make it feel better, it's just true.