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07-14-2007, 08:38 PM
I don't think that I would put a lot of credence into this, but I just took one of those dumb quizzes online where you talk about your sexual prefences...and when the quiz came back it said that I was asexual. Uhhh...is that even possible? Now, as I said, if I were going to have sex, it'd be with a guy, so it's not really an orientation thing but I've always kind of wondered about whether there is such a thing as an asexual person. Are there people who just aren't inclined to be interested in sex? Or is that always a natural need, like the need for food?
07-14-2007, 08:53 PM
Like you said, I wouldn't put a lot of credence into an online quiz like that. (They tend to come up saying I'm from the midwestern United States, simply because of my vocabulary, when I was born and raised in Alabama.)
But as to your question of whether someone can be asexual... I dunno. I do know that, physically, the balance of hormones can decide the strength of someone's libido, so it is definitely possible to have someone who has a very low sex drive, to the point of almost never needing/desiring sex, and also people on the other end of the spectrum who need/desire it to the point that it can become exhausting if their partner doesn't have the same heightened desire.
Also, there's the apostle Paul to consider, who said that some people are given the gift of celibacy, which would imply that some people simply don't want or need sex, that's just the way the creator wired them.
So my opinion? I guess it's possible. Whether YOU are asexual or not, though, is something I wouldn't dare speculate on. :cool:
07-14-2007, 10:17 PM
Thank you, mjules, I find that very helpful! :)
07-14-2007, 11:01 PM
Interesting question - caveat, online quizzes are often full of poo. But the question itself, a fine one.
I have met one or two people in my life who register with me as if they don't *have* a sexuality, and they don't express interest in dating, sex, or partnership. And I'm not talkin' 20 year olds - I'm talking adults in their 40s, 50s, who have NEVER had a bf/gf or any sexual experiences, not even kissing. So I think it's quite possible that there are some few people out there with very very little (no?) drive for sex. I'm sure they are a minority though, based on the fact that most people "read" as sexual in some form or another - - asexuality is something I certainly haven't experienced firsthand, being highly libidinous myself, sometimes to my chagrin. :o
Anyway - take the online quizzes for fun & games, not seriousness, and don't let some idtiot who happened to put a quiz on the internet determine how you think of yourself. That part is up to you.
07-14-2007, 11:03 PM
There use to be a lady in our local GLAD group who was ASexaul and she has never had sex nor has she ever had sexual feelings for a male or female, she is in her sixties, very sweet, and I have no reason to doubt her.
Here are a couple of links for additional info.
07-15-2007, 11:09 AM
That's interesting, I had no idea that "asexual" was considered to be an orientation...like, I've never heard that mentioned. I guess I would consider myself a sexual person in that I really haven't been in a solid relationship with a stable guy...so, I anticipate that when I do, I will want to have sex when I marry them...so I would still consider myself as a "sexual" being, (regardles, as we all concur, of this quiz). But, I have also considered the possibility that, as Paul said, God creates some people who have "a gift of celibracy" and that it may be God's will for me to remain single. As Paul says, being single does free one from very important familial obligations when doing God's work...like, if I go to be a missionary in the Sudan and am not married I don't have to worry about what will happen to my children if I die there. But, I still think it's a matter of finding someone compatible, like a soulmate, who bonds intimately with me and who I have chemistry with. It's hard to do that when your relationships have been a little messed up thus far. I think part of it is that I'm not necessarily stable in my life right now and it is difficult for anyone to establish such relationships when they are severely stressed out.
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