Transgendered

[tvasas]

Hello, my name is Thomas Vasas. I have a problem, transgender does not bother me. But I don't know what to say to my Pastor, Friends, and Family. I know God has made me different for some reason, but what to tell my Pastor, Friends, and Family is a different story to tell. I need help of what to say and how to say it.

[Jessica_Valdez]

Hello, my name is Thomas Vasas. I have a problem, transgender does not bother me. But I don't know what to say to my Pastor, Friends, and Family. I know God has made me different for some reason, but what to tell my Pastor, Friends, and Family is a different story to tell. I need help of what to say and how to say it.

is it that you are a transgender or you are interested in transgender?

if you are a transgender... It is a complex issue becuase they feel you are altering god's creation of you as a man. But if you are truly aware of the transgender mind then its easier for you to understand. Its a mind thing that someone goes through. It takes time for people to realilze they are transgender becuause it involves self discovery. Some trans do it just for the whole sex thing but that is when it becomes an alteration becuase its not part of the natural person. They are doing it just to do it not becuase that is who they are. It takes a lot of confidence and support to be transgender. telling your parents isnt easy but once you feel confortable with yourself you easily become more comfortable with them. I slowly started to wear girl things in front of them so it wouldnt be a big suprise once they saw me full blown out. And its all part of the process of growing into a female anyway. Example: Hormones, Growing out your hair, nails and becoming a full female..... My advice is to find a support system and to finde self-discovery so you know this is who you are and who you want to be.

If you are trying to introduce your transgender partner to your family... Its big step if they already dont know about your lifestyle. My previous boyfriend led them to believe that I was a female and they were so happy for him becuase he was changing his life and becoming a better person and changing. When he finally built up the confidence to tell them they were ashamed, comming from a christian family with christian morals. They were against the same sex thing becuase it was a sin in God's eye. They were quick to judge, not taking in consideration of his feelings and him being happy and changing for the good. But as long as there is love there is nothing else you need. All you have come to find out is 1. you have true love and 2. you have each other.

Hope I was helpful.......

[tvasas]

It answer some of my questions, but the deeper is that I have been like this for years and new it. But after getting seperated and divorced, my whole life starting to change in front of me. Even to this day, can't stand being around men or boys. I don't know I'm like this, these things are very hard to explain. If people are nice to me, than I can relate to them, but if they are rude in front of me, it turns me off. I was raised to be a nice person (good hearted).

[Zerbie]

I. I don't know I'm like this, these things are very hard to explain. If people are nice to me, than I can relate to them, but if they are rude in front of me, it turns me off. I was raised to be a nice person (good hearted).

That makes sense. Who likes being around rude people?

Is there anything else still bothering you that you want to ask about?

[tvasas]

I have a question about femminity. Since I'm transgendered (male to female), I play a role as Traci, but it's a role of how i feel. My question is, how can a person, except the feelings of his femminity and deal with the opposite gender when it comes to relationships, especially when its a good relationship? It's sexual in away, but it's really real, and I feel a connection about being initmately in love, it's not just desire's it's how I feel. What should I do?

[Zerbie]

Are you asking how you can accept your feelings? I would say, just accept that your feelings are there. We have all kinds of feelings every day, right? That's normal and okay.

Or are you asking about relationships? That gets a little more complicated. When you say "opposite sex" do you mean people you want to be dating? Like, dating relationships? Because that involves finding someone compatible, who you feel comfortable around and can trust. When you find someone who you can trust and be safe with, then you can become open with them and share your inner feelings - the feelings you do not share with strangers or casual acquaintances. IN a nutshell, anyway.