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Mark
07-26-2007, 06:06 PM
Hello, my name is Mark. I was a LC-MS pastor for 16 years, and then I got booted from the pastoral roster of pastors. It wasn't even because I was gay, but merely attracted to men. The leadership was so threatened by the fact that I wanted to disclose to the congregation that I was struggling with attraction to men, they asked me to resign. It's a long story...and I will be glad to share with all of you my story. Long and short of it is...I am gay...have been since birth...and open and out for four years...and proud of it. It came at a hefty price, however.... I lost my church retirement, my home (divorce), my social standing as a "respectable" churchman...(hehe)...
but the highest and costliest came, when my children chose not to worship with me any longer because I worshiped at a "too liberal" (code word..."gay")
church; and when my ex-wife up and moved them 20 miles away from me, when at the time, I lived 12 houses away.
It has been a struggle. At times, I've wanted to take the church (local) and at large to court for their actions toward me. Unfortunately, employment hasn't provided the necessary income even to sustain a living, and then add onto that, child support for 3 children every month.
I am currently in the process of applying for an Executive Director position within a gay organization. Please pray...that I might land that position.

I so wanted to attend the recent conference in Irvine California. I attended
Concordia University, Irvine as an undergraduate. But more to the point, I had and have a few things to say about "dessert stream" "Exedous International" "Keys Ministry" and "Outpost". I was heavily involved in the ex-gay movement.

Anyway, ramblin' man...here! Just thought I would say hello.

crm3
07-26-2007, 06:35 PM
Welcome! I'm sorry that coming out has proved so difficult for you. you will be in my prayers not only that you will get the position that you are after, but also that you will find the fulfilled life of love and acceptance that I'm sure you're looking for. Maybe your children just need some time to adjust. When my dad came out my sisters really struggled with it but now they see my father;'s partner as a father figure. Again i'll keep you in my prayers.
Wishing you joy,
Cait

u-dog
07-26-2007, 08:09 PM
Welcome Mark! As my sainted mother used to say: "The church would be a wonderful place ... if it weren't for the people." Sorry that your road has been a rough one. I'll keep the job possibility in my prayers. Let us know what happens

Daniel
07-27-2007, 12:02 AM
Welcome Mark!

As someone who just spend a good deal of time in court (as a jurist), this is something you don't want to do if you can help it. It's a great way to put your life on hold. Legal matters take forever.

Keep the faith! I have the feeling that you are going to be running your own conferences some day.

Looking forward to getting to know you here on the forum.

Sending you prayers and blessings.

Jennifer5
07-28-2007, 01:18 AM
Welcome Mark! Glad to have you here!!

What area are you from?

Can I ask how old your kids are..?

pnggrad79
07-28-2007, 08:44 AM
Hi Mark,
Welcome to Soulforce! I am so sorry about the difficult time you have had in the past, and I hope that your kids will come to terms with your sexuality before long. It will take some time for them to adjust. It is simply reprehensible what your church did to you. That was not in any way, shape or form godly. God was not part of that whole thing, Fear was. Anyway, I will pray that you land the position you desire and that you learn to celebrate who you are. You have come through the fire, my friend. Now shine like the fine gold you are!:)

Blessings, peace and love to you!

Zerbie
07-28-2007, 12:51 PM
Mark,

Welcome. You have found friends.

Terribly sorry for all the bad things that happened. Keep your focus on the positive and on opportunities. I hope the job opportunity works out for you.

Given time, families can reconcile and heal. It took my family over 30 years of pretending a cousin was dead, to finally speak to him on the phone one Christmas and wish him a happy holiday. I pray that your reconciliation will come sooner and be more substantial than that.

Come back and spend time with us when you want. We wish you the best.

:pray:

Gennee
07-28-2007, 01:30 PM
Welcome, Mark. I'm sory about all your troubles but there's always something wonderful that lies ahead in spite of some setbacks. I will pray for gainful employment for you. Continue to come here.

Gennee]

:)