Ray Smith will always live on in our hearts...

[Jennifer5]

The guy that I mentioned the other day in the "Prayer Requests" thread... one of the memorial services was tonight...

I've never seen so many kids in tears. Kids I've known for the last five years and never seen cry. Parents and adults who seem un-breakable, sobing.

Tonight was the smaller memorial for church/school family and actual family. But the church couldn't hold even them as people were having to park across the street.

I love him. I miss him. And I will always hold him in my heart.


The kids are going to talk to the people working on building the new school... we're asking that we do our Ribbon Cutting Ceremony in his name and dedicate the building to him.

The strongest people were broken this evening... no one can imagine life without him.

:'( :love: :'( :love: :'( :love: :'( :love: :'( :love: :'( :love::'( :love: :'( :love: :'( :love: :'( :love:

[elcharrom]

Sorry for the loss jeniffer, but he's loved no matter what right? Say loud jenn.

[Jennifer5]

Someone... give me a clue... when does it stop hurting? and how does it hurt this much, when you didn't even realize that you cared so much about the person before hand? :(

[u-dog]

Someone... give me a clue... when does it stop hurting? and how does it hurt this much, when you didn't even realize that you cared so much about the person before hand? :(


The answer to that is different for different people and different relationships. For really close relationships like spouse or child the pain never totally goes away, but common wisdom is that it takes a whole cycle of the year (birthdays, holidays, etc) to get through the worst of it. With someone you know from church and school I imagine that the first few weeks of school will be the hardest and then life without him will begin to take on some feeling of "normal" and it will get easier. But then something will happen that you associate particularly with Ray and it will stab you again unexpectedly. Share your feelings with the people who knew him. That helps. and we will keep you in prayer. The death of someone dear is one of those experiences that I was talking about that add to your wisdom and your insight about God, and life, and being a human. Wisdom ain't cheap is it? :love::pray:

[Jennifer5]

Wisdom ain't cheap is it? :love::pray:

Yet they tell you it's good thing...:rolleyes:


The thing is, I know that it's really bothering me... because it's that thing that is just there, can't make it fully go away, just there.... this feeling... that hurts... :(

(wow, I suck at trying to explain how it feels, but I supposed if you've lost someone, you know.)