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BlackCatLady
09-06-2007, 01:50 PM
Hey everybody!
I've been reading this forum for a few weeks already. I've been linked to here through other sites and I keep coming back to this site. You seem to be a great community; I'm especially impressed at the real diversity I see here - how often have I seen "LGBT communities" that totally lacked the "BT" part - this is not the case here and it's wonderful. And seeing nice and accepting straigt people is always great. To sum up, I like it here, and I thought it would be, finally, a good idea to register.
To briefly introduce myself, I'm a 34 year-old lesbian woman, I live in Quebec City, Canada, I work for the government and I live with my wonderful and beloved partner for almost 1 year now - and hoping for many years together. She is truly my soul mate and the woman I've been waiting for for many years. I thank God that she is in my life.
My username comes from my liking for cats in general, and black cats in particular. I've always found black cats beautiful, classy and irresistible - and it shows people I'm definitely not superstitious! LOL. Seriously, I kind of relate with them, because black cats have a long reputation of being sinister and wearing bad luck, and the object of religious persecution (being "symbols of witchcraft"). Me and my partner are currently taking care of an adorable female black cat (7 years old) that we like very much; her owner is a friend of ours who have to share an appartment with a cat-allergic person. We of course intend to get our own cat someday, and if I have my word, it will of course be a black cat ;) Well, of course, this is not an unnegotiable condition - if the cat's not black but I connect with it, so be it! I'm open-minded!
So, back to more serious topic, I also like very much the spirituality going on here. I've been raised Catholic but cannot say I relate myself with this denomination right now; actually I don't relate with any official Christian denomination; but I'm definitely not an atheist. I believe in God, just not in organized religion. However, I appreciate very much what I've read here about homosexuality and the Bible. And after having read and thought about other spiritualities, I keep coming back to Jesus and his teachings. My partner is also without religious denomination, although she is very influenced by pagan/wiccan thinking. While not relating with this (while I highly respect those beliefs, and even more so because my beloved one relate to them). Our discussion about spiritual beliefs are very interesting and a great part of our relationship. I am a very spiritual person and I guess this is a good part of what makes me like your forum.
I have known I'm a lesbian for years; I became fully aware of it when I was 22, but it was present way before that. Contrary to a lot of others here, I'm not coming from a very religious background - as for many of my generation here, my parents were (and still are) very liberal. However they have shown when I was a child and a young teenager a hostile attitude towards homosexuality. I was very afraid to tell them but it went well after all, although the very first months after my coming out were not easy. For my mother I have to say she progressed a lot; for my dad I don't know because we don't talk about this kind of things. But I guess he's at least tolerant (I would need to talk more with him to know if he's really accepting); I recently introduced them to my girlfriend and it all went very well. I'm so happy about that!!
As for my own involvement here about gay rights, well I'm not a big activist although I have participated in discussions about gay marriage when it was discussed a lot, a few years ago (circa 2004), when a lot of letters were published in the newspapers. It was at times frustrating - like repeating the same things "ad nauseam" - but I'm prould I did something. There is this organization here called GRIS (it's a french acronym, the translation would be group for social integration of sexual minorities) who sends people to high schools to talk to students; I support it, even if I can't participate because it requires to have free week days (which I don't have - today is an exception); but I would if I could.
I'll end this very long introduction by saying how I admire your activism in fundamentalist territory - it's very courageous and something that ought to be done. I'll keep hanging out here and maybe participating in some discussions.

BruceChris
09-06-2007, 02:01 PM
(Meerrow)

Peace and Love, Bruce Chris

paul
09-06-2007, 02:37 PM
Hello BCL, :wave:

And Welcome. Congrats on your relationship, how wonderful for you and yours. There is a great group of people here, and you are also correct, diverse. Your mate would probably get along famously with Scotty!

I look forward to your participation and seeing you round.
paul

BlackCatLady
09-06-2007, 02:47 PM
Hi :)
I realize my thread is kind of appearing in double... I've just edited it to complete a sentence... I guess I did something wrong. I'd like to erase the thread that has no reply... don't know how to do it.

Your mate would probably get along famously with Scotty!

Maybe! But on the Net she's more of a gamer that a forum participant (well she does particpate on gaming forums) - which is one of the rare things we don't have in common. Which is fine.

Gennee
09-06-2007, 03:02 PM
Welcome to Soulforce, BCL. I'm a cat lover myself (own a calico cat). I love the diversity here, too. I'm a transgender person who loves to read all the postings here. I pray daily :pray: for the people because we all have needs. We are also created by God. In my mind everyone is worthy of respect and dignity.

Gennee

:wave:

u-dog
09-06-2007, 06:54 PM
Glad you're here BCL ! Since your other message is a new thread you will have to wait for a moderator to delete it. Keltic should be by anytime now ... he'll take care of it.

sailaway58
09-06-2007, 08:34 PM
Welcome. Soulforce is a great place for spiritual challenge and personal growth.
This is also a great place for humor and internet friendship.
I personally have grown enough to accept people that love cats, so ENJOY! :D

elcharrom
09-07-2007, 06:14 PM
Bonjour madame, Ca va?

Haha my french 1 class is so cool, and I can finally use it on som1 :D, well welcome to the forums!!!! And black cats look cool, but I aint a cat person so uhuh, keep em away from me haha :p

And I was a catholic in the sense that I used to follow tradition instead of actually loving god, so I started loving him in the way he deserves :D

You'll find it amazing here :D

BlackCatLady
09-08-2007, 06:16 AM
Thanks everybody for the nice welcomes. :)

Bonjour Elcharrom, if you want help with your french class just ask. I'll be pleased to help. In return English is my second language so sorry in advance for the occasional mistakes.

I'm definitely a cat person, but my girlfriend is both a dog and a cat person, so she sometimes say that she "bipetual" LOL

dsdrane
09-08-2007, 02:24 PM
Bienvenue!!

:):flower::wave:

archyboi
09-09-2007, 08:12 PM
Howdy Black Cat Lady,

I just can't resist tellin' ya this. Do you know who Karen Armstrong is? She was a Catholic Nun who left the order. Her books are great. I love reading her. She is so insightful and wonderful. She once told Terri Gross on NPR that sadly "she was a failed heterosexual." Don't you just love that? I had to share.

Nice to meet you.

Peace & Love,

Kev

Jennifer5
10-01-2007, 10:46 PM
Welcome, glad to have you here :)