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Elizabeth
10-06-2007, 12:08 AM
I am a Christian woman and a mother. Tonight I went to see "For the Bible Tells Me So" playing here in NYC. I can't tell you how relieved I was to know this issue is being openly addressed. I am hopeful that peaceful and respectful dialogue can truly begin thus healing within the Church. (Any and all of them)
I have been silent for too long now and am encouraged by the parents in this movie. I too, like them, stand beside my gay son with love and pride. The question for me has been how can I help in a meaningful way? I have witnessed first hand the harm done by “loving Christians" who choose to deny the existence of a gay persons place in Gods Church. I worry for my son and all those that are sent the message that they are less than loved by the very Churches and people that claim to be representing Gods love.
It is both harmful and hateful for others to wage this false war on innocent people. It engrains into future generations a fear and prejudice that will damage an untold number of lives. My heart simply aches for every day that passes and this issue is allowed to fester like a wound and be a cause of pain for so many. That is not what faith is about and it is not what Christians are called to do.
Simply on a human level, in any faith or none, love is just that –LOVE. It in no way means hate which is what is occurring within our society and the very walls of the places that should be offering a sanctuary.
To the mother waiting for an answer from James Dobson I applaud you. I feel as though this being addressed openly is like the great Oz being found behind the curtain. Dr. Dobson has contributed much to many people in his own way. He is however disgracing himself by ignoring your plea to communicate and should at the very least offer you a real conversation. His lack of compassion alone leaves me saddened and points out an apparent dangerous arrogance he leads so many with. Please keep the dialogue going and press forward- we all must. This is a conversation that must occur.
I am grateful to have found Soulforce and I offer my support and voice. To those of you suffering I send love and encouragement.
With Peace-Elizabeth

u-dog
10-06-2007, 06:36 AM
Elizabeth,

Thank you for your message! As a Christian dad I send my prayers toward you and your gay son. How fortunate and blessed he is to have gotten you for a mom. Not everyone is so blessed unfortunately. sometimes I wonder what God is thinking. I would have been the PERFECT dad for a gay son and he sent me houseful of straight boys. -- really FINE straight boys mind you -- but straight boys nonetheless. Maybe God is setting me up for a gay grandson?

U-dog

Zerbie
10-06-2007, 09:48 AM
Depending upon where you are, you may be able to take a stand this week with us: http://www.sevenstraightnights.org


It's a series of vigil events primarily by and for STRAIGHT allies of the gay community. See if there's an event in your area!

BruceChris
10-06-2007, 01:13 PM
It is always good to hear from people like you. Your son has one big advantage that most gay children do not - an openly accepting and loving parent.

New York city has a great many resources and opportunities for gay people and their friends. Just getting in touch with almost any gay organization should help you to find out about many in your area. Have you been to a P-FLAG meeting?

There are many churches around that are accepting of GLBT people, they're not hard to find. You didn't tell us what church you go to. If it is in a conservative denomination, you may have trouble finding an accepting one. You might try this site, it's a great resource:

www.welcomingresources.org

Come back and chat with us. Tell your son about us too.

Peace and Love, Bruce Chris

u-dog
10-06-2007, 01:44 PM
Come back and chat with us. Tell your son about us too.

Peace and Love, Bruce Chris

Yeah! and tell us about your son too. Many of us here are parents. We love to brag on our kids and listen to others do the same! There must be lotsa reasons why you are proud of him ... share em with us!

Gennee
10-06-2007, 01:58 PM
Hi, Elizabeth. I saw the film yesterday afternoon and I was so impressed by the parents. They research what being gay and lesbian is about. I am a transgender woman and transvestite who has told my family about it. They are okay with it.

I will be graduating from college in June with a degree in childhood education. My goal is to teach. I want to reach out to LGBT students in a positve and meaningful way. I applaud you for wanting to get involved and your son is blessed to have a wonderful mom who loves :love: and accepts him as he is.

Gennee

:love:

carolb
10-06-2007, 08:34 PM
Hi Christian Mom,

;)It is so good that you are coming to this site and communicating with people here. Although I read along a lot, I don't often post.

You are really showing Christ to your son, not only in your love and support of him, but in making your feelings heard. Thank you for introducing yourself!

pnggrad79
10-07-2007, 08:49 AM
Thanks Christian Mom for your words of support and encouragement. Your son will never know the pain of parental judgment because he is gay. It is crucial to his self worth and self esteem that he knows he is loved no matter what he is. Too many of us have had the door slammed in our faces by our families because we love a person of our own gender. Too many of us are talented musicians, singers, preachers, teachers and artists but we aren't allowed in most churches because we are gay.

I truly hope that one day, we ALL can sit at the table, gay and straight, transgender, queer, bisexual, ALL of us and feel free, happy and united. It is a dream I hope one day comes true.

Thanks CM and keep on being the example of Christ to your son and your community. You are what it is all about.:)

tdogg
10-09-2007, 03:29 PM
Welcome to the Soulforce forums Elizabeth! I'm glad you found your way here. Your son is very blessed to have such a loving, compassionate and supportive mom!

I have some family who have difficulty with my being a lesbian, and especially as I am in a relationship. I don't see my disabled father too much as I have to deal with my stepmom who has major issues with me; haven't seen my sister's children in a long time as she cannot allow me and my partner around them; have an aunt I was once close to but now all but estranged as she just cannot tolerate me. I have also lost 2 friends over this.

But I like to think on the family and friends that are encouraging and supportive and they FAR outweight the others! :D:love:

anyways, thanks for sharing. Your words touched my heart and I'm sure they touched others' as well.

Tdogg

Jennifer5
10-22-2007, 12:05 AM
Welcome! :)