Domestice Violence

[alisaeyes]

Do you think there is alot of domestic violence in the lesbian and gay community like in the st8 community...

[Alecto]

I'm not feeling to sure about my google-fu right about now, but I remember hearing something about it being a major issue for queer folk. I don't know that it's any more common, but when it happens, there's all the usual issues with domestic violence plus some extra ones because there's less resources available, there's extra fears about discrimination (and extra realities of discrimination), people are more likely to view it as "mutual combat" when two people are the same gender etc. The short answer is: YES, it's a problem.

[u-dog]

I know that domestic violence is a problem in some Lesbian relationships. I haven't heard or read about it in regard to gay male relationships. That doesn't mean that it doesn't exist. I believe that DV is LESS prevalent in the glbt community than it is in St8 community. IT TOTALLY SUCKS WHEREVER IT ARISES! THERE IS NO EXCUSE FOR HURTING THE PERSON YOU LOVE :mad:

[andrewlittle]

My wife is considering, and being considered for, a position working with GLBT victims of domestic violence, especially people of color (just because POC is the focus of this particular non-profit). It is widely prevalent in both lesbian and gay relationships, unfortunately. Not more prevalent than str8, but just as prevalent, oddly enough, and much more difficult to deal with legally and socially because of cultural attitudes.

[Tinkerbell047]

I could see how the main-stream American society might see DA in gay relationships to be mutual beat-em-ups. "Men are violent," says my mom. End of case. I don't agree, but hey. As far as lesbian DA, I would think it's pretty prevalent, I just think it's almost as taboo to talk about being beaten my your lesbian lover as it is to have a lesbian lover in some circles. Doesn't make it right.

Shrugs, just my humble opinion.
-Tink

[Unmasked]

Domestic abuse goes all ways. I've been studying female-on-male violence for a long time. Our culture has bastardized men and portrayed women as being defenseless in most cases I think. I know a man who is abused by his significant other, but he won't say anything because he knows that he won't be taken seriously, and he is afraid.

I'm not exactly sure how it would work in our community, but I have the feeling that it pans out about the same.

[kimmyd]

Domestic abuse goes all ways. I've been studying female-on-male violence for a long time. Our culture has bastardized men and portrayed women as being defenseless in most cases I think. I know a man who is abused by his significant other, but he won't say anything because he knows that he won't be taken seriously, and he is afraid.

I'm not exactly sure how it would work in our community, but I have the feeling that it pans out about the same.


I think DM can effect any relationship, regardless of sexual perference. However, I think same-sex victims are sometimes embarassed about reporting it. That is very sad.