ladyinred
10-31-2007, 12:43 AM
The only thing I disagree with in this article with the author is on meditation. Meditation can also be benficial if used correctly so can mental training that helps us to change our way of thinking about ourselves and our relationships with others. There are people who call the Course brainwashing,I would highly disagree. It does not force people or intimidate people to use the principles in the course, nor does it try to alter the mind in a destructive way. It say it is voluntary and the words used are not coercive, nor do they try to coerce you into it's way of thinking . My idea of what brainwashing is when you are being as the author says manipulated and intimidated for their gain and benefit, The Course indicates no such reasoning.http://www.freedomdomain.com/mindcontrol/mindbattle.html
"The sad truth
is that a high percentage of people want to give away their power-
-they are true "believers"! Cult gatherings or human-potential
trainings are an ideal environment to observe first-hand what is
technically called the "Stockholm Syndrome." This is a situation
in which those who are intimidated, controlled, or made to suffer,
begin to love, admire, and even sometimes sexually desire their
controllers or captors. "
Emphasis mine ,The course and my tapes which are based on the course do not advocate giving our power away to anyone,"out there" It trains us to follow our own inner guidance which it refers to as the Holy spirit. The course states ,"the Holy spirit will not force an alien will on you and he does not command for that would imply arrogance , he only reminds." Margaret Paul also recommends the same :"Did you grow up learning to not trust yourself? Do you believe that others know more about what is right for you than you do? Do you find yourself afraid around authority figures?
When I was growing up, I was taught to believe that most people knew more than I did about what was right for me. Adults, I was told, such as my parents and teachers, certainly knew more. I was taught that other children, if they were boys, also knew more. I was taught to not trust my feelings and inner knowing, and instead defer to others who supposedly knew more than me.
I grew up with a fear of anyone who was in authority. Because I didn't trust myself, I turned to others for validation of what I should or should not do. I spent many years seeking others' approval and advice. When I was around others to whom I gave authority over me, I was often quiet and complaint.
Today, I enjoy learning about others' points of view and I sometimes seek others' advice. However, now I make my own decisions based on my spiritual Guidance and on what feels right to me.
Now, I run into the opposite situation - others giving me authority over them - authority which I do not want ........."
"When you are looking for someone to take responsibility for your safety, self worth and well being, you may find someone willing to take on the job - at a huge price. In this article, discover the joy of becoming your own guru."
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One of the things I always tell people at my 5-day intensives is, "Don't give your authority away to me. Don't assume that I know more about you than you do, or more about what is right for you than you do." Of course, even though I say this, it doesn't mean that this is what people always do.
The wounded self in many people wants to think that someone else can give you the love you need, fill up your emptiness, make you feel safe, and define your worth. The wounded self thinks if you give yourself up and try to be the way you think someone else wants you to be, you can get the love and attention you need to feel worthy, and the approval you think you need to feel safe.
Unfortunately, there are many people, also operating from their wounded selves, who want you to give up your authority over yourself - over defining yourself and over knowing what is right for you - to them. Whether it is a teacher, a parent, a spouse, a friend, a guru, a therapist, or a doctor, anyone who professes to know more than you what is right for you is not coming from a loving Adult state. A good teacher can guide you and help you find your own answers, but if that teacher professes to have all the answers for you, he or she is not supporting your highest good..............
This is not the full content of the articles , and I cannot in good conscience publish that on this forum because there are certain articles that are free and certain ones that are for paid members, $5.00 a month to join with no obligations and you can cancel your subscription on a month to month basis if you choose to do so. What I have published are the excerpts of the articles she allows people to view ,and then the full article is given to paid members. More like a preview of the articles. I joined this website. And I been a member on an ongoing basis, for the small fee, it is worth to me much more. She may up her price in the future, she stated to ten dollars , but that is still to me a small fee for the information she gives and the advice and help she gives to people. I would personally gladly pay it.
Now do I gain insight from others writings here, yes many times I do, they make me laugh and sometimes I cry. I am not highly educated.. Actually dropped out of high school and flunked English three times in the ninth grade.
What I gleen from is information and readings on websites I read on. Often using an electronic reader since it helps me as well. I also look up words in the dictionary many times before I use them to be sure I have a correct spelling or meaning. I can pace the speed of the reader and it also underlines the words as it goes along. I had one semester of college and that was it. I fortunately got my diploma (not ged ) At the time from the college which was offering the program.
I also find inspiration in music and often listen to lyrics carefully to gleen their meaning and they often reasonate with me on a personal level. I often have emotions when I listen to a song and often can be moved to tears....perhaps I find them touching. My psychologist tells me I much more emotionally honest with myself and I tell her I often find refuge in music.
I'm really not terrified of tears like I used to be and don't really hide them anymore. Frankly I don't give a crud what other people thought about me when they did see me cry... Many people hadn't criticized me anyway but offered comfort and support. In the past I could be ridiculed and often repressed it or when I did cry I was under extreme stress(worrying what others thought of me, they don't cause that reaction in me anymore.
"The sad truth
is that a high percentage of people want to give away their power-
-they are true "believers"! Cult gatherings or human-potential
trainings are an ideal environment to observe first-hand what is
technically called the "Stockholm Syndrome." This is a situation
in which those who are intimidated, controlled, or made to suffer,
begin to love, admire, and even sometimes sexually desire their
controllers or captors. "
Emphasis mine ,The course and my tapes which are based on the course do not advocate giving our power away to anyone,"out there" It trains us to follow our own inner guidance which it refers to as the Holy spirit. The course states ,"the Holy spirit will not force an alien will on you and he does not command for that would imply arrogance , he only reminds." Margaret Paul also recommends the same :"Did you grow up learning to not trust yourself? Do you believe that others know more about what is right for you than you do? Do you find yourself afraid around authority figures?
When I was growing up, I was taught to believe that most people knew more than I did about what was right for me. Adults, I was told, such as my parents and teachers, certainly knew more. I was taught that other children, if they were boys, also knew more. I was taught to not trust my feelings and inner knowing, and instead defer to others who supposedly knew more than me.
I grew up with a fear of anyone who was in authority. Because I didn't trust myself, I turned to others for validation of what I should or should not do. I spent many years seeking others' approval and advice. When I was around others to whom I gave authority over me, I was often quiet and complaint.
Today, I enjoy learning about others' points of view and I sometimes seek others' advice. However, now I make my own decisions based on my spiritual Guidance and on what feels right to me.
Now, I run into the opposite situation - others giving me authority over them - authority which I do not want ........."
"When you are looking for someone to take responsibility for your safety, self worth and well being, you may find someone willing to take on the job - at a huge price. In this article, discover the joy of becoming your own guru."
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One of the things I always tell people at my 5-day intensives is, "Don't give your authority away to me. Don't assume that I know more about you than you do, or more about what is right for you than you do." Of course, even though I say this, it doesn't mean that this is what people always do.
The wounded self in many people wants to think that someone else can give you the love you need, fill up your emptiness, make you feel safe, and define your worth. The wounded self thinks if you give yourself up and try to be the way you think someone else wants you to be, you can get the love and attention you need to feel worthy, and the approval you think you need to feel safe.
Unfortunately, there are many people, also operating from their wounded selves, who want you to give up your authority over yourself - over defining yourself and over knowing what is right for you - to them. Whether it is a teacher, a parent, a spouse, a friend, a guru, a therapist, or a doctor, anyone who professes to know more than you what is right for you is not coming from a loving Adult state. A good teacher can guide you and help you find your own answers, but if that teacher professes to have all the answers for you, he or she is not supporting your highest good..............
This is not the full content of the articles , and I cannot in good conscience publish that on this forum because there are certain articles that are free and certain ones that are for paid members, $5.00 a month to join with no obligations and you can cancel your subscription on a month to month basis if you choose to do so. What I have published are the excerpts of the articles she allows people to view ,and then the full article is given to paid members. More like a preview of the articles. I joined this website. And I been a member on an ongoing basis, for the small fee, it is worth to me much more. She may up her price in the future, she stated to ten dollars , but that is still to me a small fee for the information she gives and the advice and help she gives to people. I would personally gladly pay it.
Now do I gain insight from others writings here, yes many times I do, they make me laugh and sometimes I cry. I am not highly educated.. Actually dropped out of high school and flunked English three times in the ninth grade.
What I gleen from is information and readings on websites I read on. Often using an electronic reader since it helps me as well. I also look up words in the dictionary many times before I use them to be sure I have a correct spelling or meaning. I can pace the speed of the reader and it also underlines the words as it goes along. I had one semester of college and that was it. I fortunately got my diploma (not ged ) At the time from the college which was offering the program.
I also find inspiration in music and often listen to lyrics carefully to gleen their meaning and they often reasonate with me on a personal level. I often have emotions when I listen to a song and often can be moved to tears....perhaps I find them touching. My psychologist tells me I much more emotionally honest with myself and I tell her I often find refuge in music.
I'm really not terrified of tears like I used to be and don't really hide them anymore. Frankly I don't give a crud what other people thought about me when they did see me cry... Many people hadn't criticized me anyway but offered comfort and support. In the past I could be ridiculed and often repressed it or when I did cry I was under extreme stress(worrying what others thought of me, they don't cause that reaction in me anymore.