Hi y'all from South Carolina

[simmeringblonde]

I'm Kasy from SC. Luckily I live in what is probably the most diverse area of SC. I came out (sounds like I should have had a debutante ball) late in life due in part to being raised by fundies.

I attend an MCC church and am glad I found it because I was in a real dark place for awhile not sure what to do with myself. I became aware of this website from picking up the book "Religion Gone Bad".

My mom, who I was once very close to, cannot comprehend how I can be Christian and gay, and insists that my church isn't a real church. I no longer question myself but I am still hurt that she wants to "cure" me.


I have an ex-husband who has been my strength through a lot of this when my family turned their backs on me. He's a good guy. We have a 6 year old son together.

Anyway, nice to meet y'all. I avoid social situations and interaction in "real" life, but good luck getting me to shut up on here.

[antiochian]

Anyway, nice to meet y'all. I avoid social situations and interaction in "real" life, but good luck getting me to shut up on here.

I haven't been here long myself, and I'm like you, not a social butterfly (very introverted), but on here I post and post, probably more than I should and if anyone will wear out their welcome, it's probably me! I hear people are starting a petition to have me ousted, but I'm sure someone will speak on my behalf!! :)

Glad you found the strength to come out, but how hard to have your family, the people who should be there for you no matter what, act as they did. Welcome!

[u-dog]

I'm Kasy from SC. Luckily I live in what is probably the most diverse area of SC. I came out (sounds like I should have had a debutante ball) late in life due in part to being raised by fundies.

I attend an MCC church and am glad I found it because I was in a real dark place for awhile not sure what to do with myself. I became aware of this website from picking up the book "Religion Gone Bad".

My mom, who I was once very close to, cannot comprehend how I can be Christian and gay, and insists that my church isn't a real church. I no longer question myself but I am still hurt that she wants to "cure" me.


I have an ex-husband who has been my strength through a lot of this when my family turned their backs on me. He's a good guy. We have a 6 year old son together.

Anyway, nice to meet y'all. I avoid social situations and interaction in "real" life, but good luck getting me to shut up on here.


Welcome!

How ironic that your husband, who might have some reason to be angry about your being a Lesbian and not telling him before you got married and had a child with him (I'm gay and still married to an amazing woman, myself), is loving and supportive and affirming. And your mother... whose job description CLEARLY STATES that she is to love you no matter what ... is behaving badly. Sheesh!

Anyway... glad to have you here with us blondie!

[simmeringblonde]

Welcome!

How ironic that your husband, who might have some reason to be angry about your being a Lesbian and not telling him before you got married and had a child with him (I'm gay and still married to an amazing woman, myself), is loving and supportive and affirming. And your mother... whose job description CLEARLY STATES that she is to love you no matter what ... is behaving badly. Sheesh!

Anyway... glad to have you here with us blondie!


Mmmm thats the thang, I didn't figure it out til after I was married. Yeah, I should have known, but is was so engraved in my head that it was simply an impossibility unless you were seriously mentally ill, that I didn't even pay attention to the things going on in my brain. I was very focused on being happily married and just like everyone else.

In fact, it is a major sore point for me that people assume I knew and mislead my ex-husband in some way. The only person I misled was myself.

[simmeringblonde]

Yeah, I am pretty hurt by the above comment. I will move on then since I guess I cannot even escape that kind of judgement here. And my tears mean this is not the place for me after all.:(

[BruceChris]

u-dog, Dave, was only pointing out some apparent inconsistencies in other people's behavior. I am sure that he meant no harm, no offense to any in your family. Please come back, and talk to us some more.

Peace and Love, Bruce Chris

[sailaway58]

Yeah, I am pretty hurt by the above comment. I will move on then since I guess I cannot even escape that kind of judgement here. And my tears mean this is not the place for me after all.:(
Sometime when I hurt I see thing through those eyes and see falsely.
Every one here understands what you are going through, Dave found himself in the almost exact situation.
Sometimes tears are a part of healing so while you shed them, feel and understand the reasons anyone comes here vary, but acceptance and understanding are always close to the top.
No one would be more broken than Dave to think he inadvertently hurt you.
Hang around awhile, I think you'll be okay here.
Tim

[u-dog]

Yeah, I am pretty hurt by the above comment. I will move on then since I guess I cannot even escape that kind of judgement here. And my tears mean this is not the place for me after all.:(


Yo! Simmeringblonde! I wasn't criticizing you!!! :love: Lots of us (including me) involve other people in our lives in ways that cannot be undone before we sort out whats true about ourselves. This is partly our responsibility but is MOSTLY the fault of our homophobic society.

All I meant was that it was IRONIC that the guy who is directly involved is loving and affirming while the person whose only responsibility in life is to love you unconditionally is the one who is copping an attitude.

You are doin fine SB!! There is no judgement for you here! Sorry if there was a misunderstanding

[Gennee]

Hi Kasy ans welcome to Soulforce. Please don't leave here without getting to really know us. We really wnat to know more about you. I am a transgender individual with gay friends. I have have a deep love for the gay and lesbian community and I would love to see the discrimination end.

Gennee

:love::wave:

[paul]

I haven't been here long myself, and I'm like you, not a social butterfly (very introverted), but on here I post and post, probably more than I should and if anyone will wear out their welcome, it's probably me! I hear people are starting a petition to have me ousted, but I'm sure someone will speak on my behalf!! :)

Glad you found the strength to come out, but how hard to have your family, the people who should be there for you no matter what, act as they did. Welcome!

Alright you two, stop it!:D

Seriously, atiochian, you have become a wonderful addition to our family and I have been telling myself to tell you so for awhile now. So, consider yourself told.

Kasy, welcome, welcome, welcome y'all :wave:,

You cannot post to much here at SF. Most here value the opportunity to know you better, it makes us richer.

I am sorry and saddened to hear of your moms response to you, she serves the exclusive god of the Pharisees. I am proud of your husband, and glad you have him as a friend and ally. I look forward to getting to know you, so don't be shy.
paul

[Zerbie]

:( I hope it isn't too late - I hope Simmeringblonde comes back.

[simmeringblonde]

Ok, sorry if I overreacted. I am bi-polar (big suprise, I know, lol) and cannot afford the doc visits or my meds so I can be a real mess. Sometimes stuff bounces right offa me and sometimes it goes right through me.

But my girlfriend made special brownies so I feel better now....for now...sigh

[Zerbie]

Glad you're feeling better!

I hope things change and you'll be able to afford the meds you need - emotional/mental health issues can be sheer MISERY. Hang in there.

[shadesofgray21]

Hey blondie -

I've only been here a short time myself, but welcome! :)

[dsdrane]

I attend an MCC church and am glad I found it because I was in a real dark place for awhile not sure what to do with myself. I became aware of this website from picking up the book "Religion Gone Bad".

My mom, who I was once very close to, cannot comprehend how I can be Christian and gay, and insists that my church isn't a real church.

And welcome!

I have a number of friends who attend an MCC church...they love it, and of course it's a real church.

There's a great prayer called A Prayer of St. Chrysostom in which it says:

...when two or three are gathered together in his Name you will be in the midst of them....

Sounds like church to me! :)

[cartierobert]

I grew up in Kingstree and was actually working as a minister there when I came out.

I now live in Atlanta and am part of a great church that shares my religious tradition and is welcoming and affirming.

I too came out later in life. Fortunately, I was not yet involved in a marriage. I know many people who came out later in life for just the reason we did. They were trained to be a certain way and so it was not something they ever considered possible until they matured and began to see themselves as they were rather than as how people thought they should be.

Welcome. I look forward to hearing more about you and your journey.

[Gennee]

I'm very happy that you feel better, Simmeringblonde.

Gennee

:love::love:

[Vanessa White]

welcome, and welcome back, simmeringblonde. So glad that you came back to the fold here. It is sometimes hard on line to be clear in our messages to one another, but there is never any malicious intent by those that are the regulars here, we are like a welcoming family around here, there for one another as much as we can be.

About your med: some pharmaceutical companies will help those that cannot afford their meds to get them free of charge for a time. Check into that, it can help with the ups and downs. And in the meantime, therapy certainly is a big support. Stick around, it is awesome here if I do say so myself......:love:

[Jennifer5]

Welcome, glad to have you here! :)

[WindHorseKelly]

Hey Simmering Blond, Glad you came back. You can look for the right doctor who can get you meds directly from the pharmaceutical companies. It is a process and it can be sometimes arduous, but it is so worth it. Value yourself, and seek out professionals who care.

Most Sincerely, Donna

[TigerXero]

SimmeringBlonde, I just wanted to say I LOVE :love: your profile picture. Yay~ for Sailor Moon. There are a number of other anime lovers on this board as well that you might run into.