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TigerXero
12-19-2007, 02:00 AM
*Warning* I apologize for any bragging/show-offiness that may appear when I'm talking about future plans. I just wanted to share, not brag, and I'm not sure how well I did that because it's so early in the morning which = tiredness. *End Warning*

Hello! I was just wanting to share that my boyfriend of... um... *counts* 1 year and five months just found out that's he been accepted early decision to my school! And he's getting $44,000 in need based aid! Woohoo~ Especially since the school cost $52,000 annually. (I wish I was receiving that much aid :'(.)

Oh, and I go to the College of Arts and Science at Vanderbilt University. I'm double majoring in (1) Medicine, Health, and Society and (2) Psychology (and somehow learning Japanese... possibly minoring with classes at a community/state college in the summer... where its cheaper!). He'll be coming here to major in some field of Chemistry and possibly French (or at least those are his current plans... he hasn't gone through the changing your intended major phase as lots of students do when they come to college).

It's really exciting because this basically guarantees that we will stay together for the next three years (versus what might have happened had he gone to schools in Texas, New York, even Georgia)! Hopefully, when we eventually go off to graduate school, the added stability we'll have built up over the three years will make it easier to deal with the distance. We were worried about the detriment distance would have on the relationship, but no more! ^_^ We love each other so much, are so compatible, and build upon each other so much that I'm really, really, REALLY excited distance will not be an issue! We both think we're meant for each other (as does his mom :D), and our families are starting to learn about our relationship and it's going okay/well so far (jump to bottom of post for a cool story).

And... just because I'm on a roll and feel like it, I wanted to add that I want to go on to Medical School ('maybe' join the Navy and join the Medical Corps {given DADT is repealed} to help pay for Medical School, possibly stay for the benefits of not having to pay for malpractice insurance among others) and possibly earn a Medical Degree in... perhaps some specialty of Internal Medicine, or possibly Pediatrics... I haven't really decided yet. My boyfriend wants to go on and earn a Ph.D., I'm assuming in Chemistry. Of course, all of this is given we don't have a change of heart in our plans along the way, but yeah... We're very ambitious and have a long education ahead of us (eep!). It's nice that we've secured our relationship (given nothing terribly unexpected happens) for at least the next three years.

OH! AAAAAAAND, there's plenty of work to do at the University itself dealing with Queer issues (is that okay if I say that instead of GLBT?). Vanderbilt is ranked at the extreme bottom of gay friendly schools by the US News and World Report. There's some great efforts underway by students to begin changing this, so it will be amazing to be able to work toward these things as a couple in school.

Okay, so here's a cool story that I referenced above and said to jump down here to read. My boyfriend came to my paternal family's Thanksgiving as a friend, although apparently a good number of people already knew by one means or another about our relationship. It ended up going very well with everyone getting along and getting to know each other wonderfully. He enjoyed the family (and said it wasn't nearly as crazy as his), and I learned something pretty interesting after it was all said and done with: Every year, it appears that a particular family is gifted the wishbone from the turkey that is carved up for Thanksgiving by my dad's family. Well, apparently my boyfriend was slipped the wishbone for this year when we were leaving. What a surprise! There's a lot more to this story that I'm skimming over, but needless to say, it's great to feel so integrated into the family, at least so far. Okay... so... *takes breath* I guess that's all.

Daniel
12-19-2007, 07:34 AM
You happiness, joy and love, is wonderful and inspiring, bringing a smile to my face.

I know you are young and have so much of life ahead of you, but the days of life are short. Make the most of them. Cherish each other like there is no tomorrow.

Zerbie
12-19-2007, 10:07 AM
:):):):):):D:D:D:D:D

Enjoy life, guys!! Your plans sound great, and I'm sure they will turn out great even if (when) they change 10 thousand times. :love:

NathanATX
12-19-2007, 05:12 PM
I need a nap after reading that post. :)

Simply wonderful.

Don't forget to breathe... stay grounded, even when on the mountaintop.

have a great christmas!

TigerXero
12-20-2007, 02:22 AM
I am so happy for you TX! All of your plans sound both exhausting and exhilerating to an old guy, but how wonderful to be facing all these opportunities together with someone you love. Life doesn't get better than that. Remember though, that life is what happens when you are making other plans. things don't always unfold exactly the way you plan either in careers or relationships... but they still lead you on to amazing new places that you NEVER imagined or planned for. Stay open to whatever comes your way! but in the meantime, hold hands, invest fully in your relationship and leap into the future together. Ahhh... to be young again in this new and better world. sigh.

:love: U-dog

ps: what a wonderful story about Thanksgiving. I would love to know who slipped him the wish-bone, but in any case it is hard to overestimate or misunderstand its meaning. It was a powerful vote of confidence in you and your choice of "friends" It bodes very well for the future... at least in that part of your family constellation.

My Uncle, who actually happens to be gay but is not with anyone right now, is the one who slipped it too my boyfriend. I suppose he is perhaps the one who gives out the wishbone, but I don't really know. His twin as well as my dad (Dad and two Uncles) knew, and I don't know if my dad's twin (third uncle) or my dad's sister knew, but either way, at least 3/5 of the eldest in my dad's family knew. I don't know if there's actual deliberation or not on who get's the wishbone, but it would have been my gay uncle who would have pushed for that to happen if there was.

Also, I am aware plans don't always turn out the way we make them, so that's why it's so good to be flexible ^_^. We hope for the best, realize things might change, but hope for the best and try and stick together if at all possible.

:love: Thank you all so much for your lovely comments.

TigerXero
12-20-2007, 02:26 AM
OK... you made me cry. satisfied?

Oh, and yes, I'm very satisfied. I didn't realize it would touch someone that much! :D

drewcaine
12-22-2007, 12:19 PM
Wow...you're lucky.o_O
I hope it goes well, at least your lots positive about the whole thing.
drewcaine