He's soooo Helpful.......

[keltic63]

I fixed lunch before heading off to rehearsal. Since the oven was already warm, I decided I would roast the beef for tonight's dinner and use the leftovers for lunches. He watched me put the roast in the oven.

I left for rehearsal.

He left to run some errands. So, seeing that I had forgotten to turn the oven off, he did it for me. :mad:

When I returned from rehearsal, I discovered the oven door, open, cold, and my roast just sitting there......


honey, dinner will be a little late this evening.

[andrewlittle]

I fixed lunch before heading off to rehearsal. Since the oven was already warm, I decided I would roast the beef for tonight's dinner and use the leftovers for lunches. He watched me put the roast in the oven.

I left for rehearsal.

He left to run some errands. So, seeing that I had forgotten to turn the oven off, he did it for me. :mad:

When I returned from rehearsal, I discovered the oven door, open, cold, and my roast just sitting there......

honey, dinner will be a little late this evening.

It seemed there were two possible scenarios, before I read what actually happened.

The most likely, I thought, was that he DIDN'T turn off the oven and you came home to a charred hunk a meat (stay on task, don't let your mind wander).

The second was just what you said happened.

I am a husband. Jenna doesn't cook much, though. So I put Jenna in your hubby's place (I know, soon to be hubby, but...).

I asked Jenna what she would do, if she saw what your hubby saw. She said she would have turned off the oven and opened the door when she left, so I could see immediately what she had done - and so I could do whatever I needed to do about it when I got home. (Honest, I didn't do any prompting.) She also knew that, even though there were two choices, there was a 90% that whatever she did do would be the wrong thing.

It seems your hubby doesn't read minds any better than Jenna does. She asked me why I wouldn't have just told her what I was doing before I left. Seems reasonable.

[keltic63]

I fixed lunch before heading off to rehearsal. Since the oven was already warm, I decided I would roast the beef for tonight's dinner and use the leftovers for lunches. He watched me put the roast in the oven.






honey, dinner will be a little late this evening.

It seemed there were two possible scenarios, before I read what actually happened.

The most likely, I thought, was that he DIDN'T turn off the oven and you came home to a charred hunk a meat (stay on task, don't let your mind wander).

The second was just what you said happened.

I am a husband. Jenna doesn't cook much, though. So I put Jenna in your hubby's place (I know, soon to be hubby, but...).

I asked Jenna what she would do, if she saw what your hubby saw. She said she would have turned off the oven and opened the door when she left, so I could see immediately what she had done - and so I could do whatever I needed to do about it when I got home. (Honest, I didn't do any prompting.) She also knew that, even though there were two choices, there was a 90% that whatever she did do would be the wrong thing.

It seems your hubby doesn't read minds any better than Jenna does. She asked me why I wouldn't have just told her what I was doing before I left. Seems reasonable.

having trouble thinking why I needed to tell him since he actually watched me do this.....

but, things will be fine, just delayed.


on to more important fights.......yeah, we found something else to be disagreeable about.

[Zerbie]

:o:o

That sounds like something I might do. :o I have a really bad relationship with inanimate objects and processes.

In fact, we're not sure I didn't do just that this past Thanksgiving day. DH put his turkey in the oven. All the veggie stuff I was prepping stovetop, or it was soup, or it was salad. We have a timer built into the oven which I set and used to time something cooking stovetop. When it rang, I hit the "off" button on the stove, which is also the off button for the oven. Or, we think I did. I may have in fact only hit the 'off' button for the timer - we could not find the owner's manual for our oven to see if perhaps something else effected an auto-shut-off. ? Doubtful.

Anyway. I went outside and took a walk for a while as hubby watched TV. When I came home from the walk, I noticed the oven was off.

We never did figure out how long it had been off, but the turkey had not lost too much heat or cook time. But first DH got a bit mad, and announced that the turkey would not be ready til midnight at this rate. Luckily, it was only an extra 30 minutes or so.

Point being, Scott's in good company. :):) :p

[Daniel]

Even though the 'eye's' see......

While it hasn't involved an oven, there are things that hubby and I have mis-perceived. I've learned- because I do more of the cooking- that I have to spell things out verbally...."Hey.....just so you know.....I am doing such and such......so please do or don't do such and such.....Ok?"

That seems to work for us. But even still.....minds can be elsewhere. I've learned not to take it as disrespect. But that's taken me a while....

I guess is all revolves around communiation: talking talking talking.

And part of this kind of thing is this: letting the other person do what they do well.....and staying out of the way.

And for a control freak like me....well....let's just say I'm still on that learning curve.

Picking up his socks which can lie all around is an act of love....that's how I've learned how to see things.

Oh....but I ramble on.....

[keltic63]

Even though the 'eye's' see......

While it hasn't involved an oven, there are things that hubby and I have mis-perceived. I've learned- because I do more of the cooking- that I have to spell things out verbally...."Hey.....just so you know.....I am doing such and such......so please do or don't do such and such.....Ok?"

That seems to work for us. But even still.....minds can be elsewhere. I've learned not to take it as disrespect. But that's taken me a while....

I guess is all revolves around communiation: talking talking talking.

And part of this kind of thing is this: letting the other person do what they do well.....and staying out of the way.

And for a control freak like me....well....let's just say I'm still on that learning curve.

Picking up his socks which can lie all around is an act of love....that's how I've learned how to see things.

Oh....but I ramble on.....

I've learned to do that concerning the dishes in the sink......I hate to come home to a sink full of dirty dishes. he doesn't mind it so much. I can let it bother me that a) he doesn't bother to wash them, b) he doesn't mind it, c) he doesn't care that it bothers me. So who's getting all worked up? ME. how do I keep from getting too upset? I do the dishes, because I don't like seeing them! Now, if I don't want to see dishes in the sink, I just make sure I do them. I'm the one who really cares about it, so if it bugs me that much, I just do them. BUT, I've also learned that it's ok to let them sit ;) because, after all, it doesn't matter to scott! :D

[Pablo Rafael]

Grrrr...

I am so jealous. You guys that have hubby troubles!!!
I am hoping to have hubby troubles of my own someday. (Instead of just having to put up with my own annoying company.) :headbang:

[andrewlittle]

Grrrr...

I am so jealous. You guys that have hubby troubles!!!
I am hoping to have hubby troubles of my own someday. (Instead of just having to put up with my own annoying company.) :headbang:

... praying that you have all the hubby problems that you can possibly deal with, and in the not too distant future.

You know, I read your words, hear the voice coming from your heart, and see your picture - well, let me tell you, just every once in a while I ask, "Why the hell couldn't I be gay?"

Don't delve too deeply into that - I'm not. It's just fodder for further introspection when I start counseling again.

[Zerbie]

Grrrr...

I am so jealous. You guys that have hubby troubles!!!
I am hoping to have hubby troubles of my own someday. (Instead of just having to put up with my own annoying company.) :headbang:

... praying that you have all the hubby problems that you can possibly deal with, and in the not too distant future.

You know, I read your words, hear the voice coming from your heart, and see your picture - well, let me tell you, just every once in a while I ask, "Why the hell couldn't I be gay?"

Don't delve too deeply into that - I'm not. It's just fodder for further introspection when I start counseling again.

Andy, you are a sweet heart! :lol: :p

Now, Pabs, Andy's right about how attractive you are. Methinks that things will start to change now that you're coming out. You have been hiding your light for so long, it will probably take some getting used to, becoming available to potential intimates in a way you have not allowed yourself to be in years. But you're a catch, and men are going to notice that.

Meanwhile, if you're a neat-freak, you get to enjoy a clean, sparkling sink until you fall in love with some Oscar Madison. :lol::p

[sailaway58]

I think I stirred something on the stove once. And I can make pancakes. Cindy knows better than to trust me to watch anything. I forget as soon as she walks out the door.

[Zerbie]

I think I stirred something on the stove once. And I can make pancakes..

:lol::lol:

Do you have to ask her where the frying pan is?? And where the mixing bowls are?
:lol:

[tpdncr4christ]

He watched me put the roast in the oven.

honey, dinner will be a little late this evening.

I think you should take it as a compliment. Let's think about the act of bending over and placing something in an oven. Think about the position that puts you in, physically. Now ask yourself this: was he watching you put a roast in the oven, or was he just watching you? :p

[Daniel]

I think you should take it as a compliment. Let's think about the act of bending over and placing something in an oven. Think about the position that puts you in, physically. Now ask yourself this: was he watching you put a roast in the oven, or was he just watching you? :p

You have theatre director written all over you. Either that or Playwrite.

Not only have you set the scene, you've got the motivation and a point of view.

Either that or you are simply boy-crazy right now. :D

[Cephus]

My only advice is: learn to be greatful for for the little things, namely, that he did anything at all.

That's what I've had to do with my boyfriend. Being not only an only-child but also an only-grandchild, he's always had people there to take care of him. But with out any siblings or cousins to accuse him of being a brown noeser he's learned to enjoy the praise given for the occasional helping hand.

When he first moved in he stated that he wanted the dishes and vacuuming to be his responsibilities as part of contributing to the household, but all to often I would hear "I'm going to vacuum tomorrow" or "I should really do the dishes tonight" without either getting done until days later.

Being the sort of person who craves order, I've take to carrying the slack, but always in secret. When he's not around I'll do some (but not all) of the dishes or spot clean the floors with a swifer, always leaving some part of the job undone so, if the mood strikes him, he'll have the oppertunity to gleefuly shout "I'm helping! :D I'm helping!":love:

[tymejumper]

:lol::lol:

Do you have to ask her where the frying pan is?? And where the mixing bowls are?
:lol:



Ellei does a good job of watching things if I tell her to check at a specific time. She is very schedualed and follows recipies to the letter. I on the other hand throw things together and it tastes fine to me!:lol:

She is the crock pot queen though. I have such a hard time cooking in one, too much liquid, to little liquid, to much time etc. I tell her that she is more lebian than I am as we are SUPOSED to know all about crock pots and I failed Lesbian Crock pot 101!:lol::lol:

[tdogg]

Ok, so my sweetie once (not too long ago) left a pot of water boiling on the stove and we went off to shop (she was making water for tea). Came home and I found the fire on under an empty pot, one of our new and expensive pots/pans. Stainless steel turned an ugly tarnished color, permanently.

I chided her (but not too badly), and even brought it up a time or two. Gues what? Last weekend, I boiled a pot of water to warm up my tea. Forgot about it. Luckily I managed to find it before the water completely boiled out. Who felt like a complete idiot??? (me :o)

Anyways, we both cook and are usually pretty good at coordinating that type of thing. But apparently neither of us can be trusted to boil a simple pot of water!!

[Sherrie Z]

Somebody needs to invent a stove burner that shuts off automatically just after a teapot whistles or just as food starts to burn (senses heat levels on the bottoms of pots) ... and somebody needs to invent an oven that shuts off automatically if food starts to smoke or burn.

Until then ... there's always takeout. LOL ... : )

[Zerbie]

Ok, so my sweetie once (not too long ago) left a pot of water boiling on the stove and we went off to shop (she was making water for tea). Came home and I found the fire on under an empty pot, one of our new and expensive pots/pans. Stainless steel turned an ugly tarnished color, permanently.

Anyways, we both cook and are usually pretty good at coordinating that type of thing. But apparently neither of us can be trusted to boil a simple pot of water!!

Oh gee. I've done this twice, BOTH times in the 3 days before my period. Hormones have this scary, scary effect. It really frightened me, too, to discover I could leave a stove on and DRIVE AWAY!!!!!!!! :eek:

So yeah, we have a couple tarnished pots in the Zerbie/Hubby household, too. :o
:o:o

[RedneckDyke]

speaking as someone who is a moderately butch doofus and would be the husband if there was such a thing in a lesbian marriage...
We have to have directions for stuff like turning off the oven. Preferablely color coded and narrowed down into 3 easy steps. It reminds me of one episode of "Everybody Loves Raymond" where Deborah says to Ray "Why do I have to always tell you these things?" And Ray says "So I will know?"
:D