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03-28-2008, 01:22 PM
Hi. I am a mom who has a son who is gay. He came out to us at the young age of 19 (at 2:00 am on his birthday!) My response to him was "Honey, I know". So it wasn't a big deal for me, I just want him to be happy and healthy. I am Catholic and am involved in my church. My mission in life now is to get everyone accepted and loved and cared for by my church and this country. I know there are a lot of hard feelings about the church, and rightly so, but I refuse to give up on it. Love and blessings to all.
03-28-2008, 02:37 PM
Welcome, and blessings to you!!! How wonderful that your son has your full love, support, and advocacy. yes, many of us here have been hurt by our churches; myself from the Catholic church. But, I will persevere and remain strong and hopeful that the ideas and attitude will change for the better.
Welcome to Soulforce. :love:
03-28-2008, 06:09 PM
You are a way cool mom. I wish my mom was like you. Keep loving your kid and supporting him. That is the best thing you could ever do for him. Best of luck to you and God bless you.
03-29-2008, 02:56 PM
It is a joy to see parents who love their children. My heart always breaks when I hear of parents that reject their kids or kids who reject thier parents. I am also blessed by a mother whose heart is full of love. She hasn't quite gotten to the stage of working to end discrimination against LGBT individuals. Maybe someday with God's help. I think she is still hoping being gay is a stage in a mid-life crisis that I might grow out of. :lol:
I also go to a Catholic church. I see a lot of acceptance and affirmation in the Catholic church, but changes in official church teaching are verrrrrrry slow. Keep up the good work.
Glad to have you with us.
Tu Amigo, Pablo
03-29-2008, 03:10 PM
We welcome you on this forum. You seem like an exceptional mother. I am 42 years old and it has taken years for my parents to embrace my gay sexual orientation. I have a sister who is also homosexual. We both have been through some interesting twists and turns to get to where we are now as fully accepted by our family. Our siblings, neices and nephews are for the most part not just tolerable, but accepting of my sister and I. It was a tough journey to arrive at this place, but it was well worth the trip!
Your son, on the other hand, has a great headstart that I or my sister did not have. You have come to accept him at the moment of his coming out. You seem to have already accepted his homosexuality even before he was able to come to terms with it! As you said, you knew before hand, but more than that, you came to fully accepting him for who he is before the news was made known. I hope he knows what a blessing he has in having you as his mother.
God bless you and your son!
By the way, I, too, am Catholic! :)
03-29-2008, 07:02 PM
Hello, and welcome to Soulforce. My mom was great also, but she blamed herslef for being sick when she was pregnant. she thought that may have made me a lesbian. She was not upset, just afraid because of all the hate in the world and fear that I would get killed or something and discrimnated against. Once she saw how happy I was and met my life partner, she became very protective of us both.
My dad and brother and grandmother was another story, they are not accepting and my brother, the one I thought would be, has said he needs to protect his daughter from me now, like I have changed from before I told him I was gay!
The best and most important thing you can do for your son is be there for him and protect him. Tell him he is alright and show it. Be happy for him and his boyfriends and advocate for him when you can, you can make a difference. He is lucky t have you in his court:love:
03-30-2008, 01:36 PM
Hi and welcome to soulforce. It's so wonderful to hear when parents accept their gay children as you have. I wish it would be true more often. I commend you and God bless you.
03-30-2008, 01:37 PM
Hi and welcome to Soulforce. It's so wonderful to hear when parents accept their gay children as you have. I wish it would be true more often. I commend you and God bless you.
Everyone needs love and acceptance.
04-01-2008, 05:00 PM
If every gay, lesbian, bi or trans child had a mother like you!!! Your son is lucky! :love:
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