The Names Jayme.

[jaymedisco]

Wanna Talk?

[keltic63]

Wanna Talk?


sure. what's on your mind?

[matthewspeed]

Welcome Jayme!!

[jaymedisco]

:D
i'm bored. and trying to figure out how to make my mom understand me better.
she found out about me being a lesbian four years ago, and still treats me [and my sexuality] like a monstrosity.
as of right now, i'm trying to talk her into letting me hang out with my girlfriend.

[tymejumper]

:D
i'm bored. and trying to figure out how to make my mom understand me better.
she found out about me being a lesbian four years ago, and still treats me [and my sexuality] like a monstrosity.
as of right now, i'm trying to talk her into letting me hang out with my girlfriend.


Sounds like she needs some serious education. Is there a PFLAG around you? You could download some info from the net. You must still live at home if you are trying to talk your mom into letting you see your gf. Maybe she needs to actually meet her so she can see her as a real person. I would not tell her "this is my gf" but say its just a friend(if you have not already introduced them)and let her get to know her first. Then, after awhile tell her.

You could also try to find some books at the library about coming out and one called "coming out, an act of love" is really good. Also, contact PFLAG yourself and they will send you booklets for your parents. I hope this helps.

Rebekah

[Gennee]

Welcome to Soulforce, Jayme. There are plenty folks like yourself with whom you can talk with. Are you near a city or town where you can be with other people who are experiencing the same thing?

Gennee

:love::wave:

[Zerbie]

Welcome Jayme,

Yikes, about your mom's reaction. I'm so sorry to hear that. :( Eventually, she will come to her senses and remember that you are still her little girl - even you are all quite grown up and on your own - someday, she will 'get it,' I anticipate and hope for a positive outcome down the road.

Meanwhile, sounds like maybe you're about high school age or so? What resources are in your area for hanging out with other lesbian/gay teens/young people?
For the parental stuff, I agree that PFLAG is a great place to start. Look up your nearest PFLAG chapter - there may be one right in your city. If your mom won't go to a meeting, you could always go on your own and meet some other parents of gay kids who can be sort of like an extra mom or dad to you during this time. And if your mom might be open to it, you might even be able to find a PFLAG mom who would be willing to meet yours over coffee and just talk about what bothers her to someone who has 'been there, done that," T shirt and all.

[antiochian]

Hi! Welcome. There are lots of people here who will help (insofar as they're able) and support you.

[jaymedisco]

sorry it has taken me so long to reply.
I've been pretty much on lockdown at home. [no computer, no cell phone, no going out] so i'm having to get on during my free time at school.
the PFLAG thing would be very helpful...IF there was one near. I recently moved to a town in georgia, its pretty rural...Roughly 500 students at my school. I'm the only lesbian here as far as i know, and i only know one other homosexual student, chuck. My biggest problem with this entire situation is the fact that my mother has known of me being a lesbian for about 5 years now. She still treats it like its a disease. Everytime she finds out i have a gf she treats it the same way she did the fisrt time. She bars me from the girl i'm dating. I have tried relentlessly to talk to her about it, but it just ends in screaming, tears, and a longer grounding. I've come to the conclusion, that since i am months away from turning 18, i'm just going to let her react how she has been. Once I am 18 I'm still going to talk to her, but i will be in my own environment where i dont have to be punished for love. i may slip some literature in her purse every so often, just to see how that goes.
But, wish me luck, and i will reply as often as i possibly can.

[Zerbie]

Oh gee whiz, I'm sorry things are so tough. :(:(:(

You're probably right to wait it out the last few months until you can get out on your own. Do you graduate? Do you have a job?

Anyway. Best of luck, Jayme. I think you'll find that once you're out on your own that things will get better.
:pray:

[pnggrad79]

Oh Jayme,
I am so sorry your mom is reacting like this. Hopefully, she doesn't think it is just a phase and you'll get past it. I hope you know that someday you can love who you want and hopefully your mom will come to accept you as you are.
I like your name. My 20 year old daughter is named Jaymi... I almost spelled it Jayme. Best of luck to you and may God watch out after you and keep you in His strong, gracious arms. You are loved and accepted by your Creator. Much love to you young one....:pray:

[tymejumper]

I am so sorry that it's so tough for you! I swear, families, we can't pick them but we get stuck with them for life! Hang in there, 18 is almost here;)

[jewelsangel]

How are you doing Jayme?

[dylansmom]

Jayme, I am so sorry it has to be so hard for you. I do hope things get better, and your Mom will try and understand.
It amazes me how many times I hear of parents trying to ground their kids from being gay:rolleyes: