Hello, my name is Albert

[wangjrming]

Hi!

I am a Gay widower living in Santa Fe, New Mexico. I was married for almost 26 years to my husband, Larry, who died a little over a year ago after a long illness. I am still dealing with all the grief and emptiness his loss has brought me.

I attend a very supportive church here in Santa Fe semi-regularly, St. Bede's Episcopal Church. I was raised as an evangelical but have attended the Episcopal Church since college.

That's about all I can think to say right now!

Thanks!

[Sere-Kun]

Hello, Albert! :)

I am sorry for your loss. :( I would be devastated if my boyfriend died from his Chrone's disease or if he developed hepatitis B and died. I can only imagine how that must feel!

You may PM any of us if you need to let out your emotions or if you ever need support.

Much love,
Ashley

[Pablo Rafael]

Hi Albert,

I want to say hello to a close neighbor. By the standards of the west you are just a stone's throw away. Or just a quick canoe ride down the Rio Grande. Glad to have you with us. It is great that you have supportive church. Santa Fe is a city with a reputation of accepting diversity of all sorts. I would easily live there myself.

Very sorry for the death of your husband. I have a hard time imagining what that must be like. My heart goes out to you.

Please add some posts to our discussions and make your voice heard. We would like to know you better.

Tu Amigo, Pablo

[Zerbie]

Hi Albert, welcome. :):)

I'm glad you came here.

I cannot imagine dealing with loss of a husband and partner after 26 years together. I've been with mine for 5 years, and I cannot imagine a future without him, our lives are already so inseparable.

Visited Santa Fe once - beautiful! I suppose if we're going "by the standards of the west" (thank you Pablo :D) that we are also neighbors. Howdy from the Phoenix valley. (Zerbie waves to Albert across the desert :wave:)

How long have you been in Santa Fe?

[Gennee]

Welcome to the site, Albert. I just said a prayer for you. You have my condolences about your husband's passing.

Gennee

:love::'(:pray::flower::wave:

[paul]

Hi Albert,

And welcome. Sigh. I am saddened by your loss, and at the same time proud to hear from you. It's always good to hear the stereotype shattered (i.e., gays don't stay together). I hope you will join in our community...there are many really fantastic people here, and I am sure you will find friends to love and be loved by, and perhaps help you heal from the pain of your loss some.
:pray::love:paul

[Sere-Kun]

Hi Albert,

And welcome. Sigh. I am saddened by your loss, and at the same time proud to hear from you. It's always good to hear the stereotype shattered (i.e., gays don't stay together). I hope you will join in our community...there are many really fantastic people here, and I am sure you will find friends to love and be loved by, and perhaps help you heal from the pain of your loss some.
:pray::love:paul

So that's where my counselor heard the rumor that homosexuals cheat on each other from...

[antiochian]

Dear Albert, let me first of all extend my sympathy. I can't imagine how hard it must be to lose the love of your life. 26 years together, what a blessing! Welcome to the forums, hope you'll stick around and let us get to know you.

[Vanessa White]

You are among friends here, those that will hold you up if you need during this terrible time of grief. I firmly believe that the grief that we experience as humans is really on no timeline, although sometimes life tries to speed it up..... take the time you need, whatever time that is, to heal and cope better.

I am so glad that you found your way to us. We have many great discussions, laughter and tears. All of that is most welcome here.

Peace and love to you, :love::love:
Vanessa

[tymejumper]

Welcome. I am sorry you are in pain. I can't imagine losing my Ellie even though I have only had her for 3 years. Make sure you take time for yourself and grieve at your own pace.

God Bless and Much Metta(peace)
Rebekah