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08-29-2008, 07:41 PM
im 13 and ive just come out about being bisexual in a conservative christan home, and advice???:)
08-29-2008, 07:44 PM
08-29-2008, 07:57 PM
:DWelcome Dani. You've come to the right place! I see you've just joined. I just joined about three days ago myself. You'll find my introduction on the same forum as yours. Can you tell us a little more about yourself, please? Be patient and you'll find lots of people posting on your intro page.
08-29-2008, 08:14 PM
yeah like whatcha wanna know???
08-29-2008, 09:18 PM
Welcome, brave young one.
What's going on that you want advice on? And then, if you get advice, think carefully before trusting strangers on the internet.
If you need help because your family is having a hard time with your bisexuality, can you think of anyone you know in the 3D world who you trust and can be an advocate for you? A family friend, an older relative who supports and loves you unconditionally, a teacher? Someone who can go to bat for you if you have a hard time getting along with your family?
The only thing that worries me is that you not put too much trust in what strangers on the internet say. Trust people you know well.
If there is really no one you know well ready to support you right now, and you're on your own, then I'd suggest you contact the PFLAG group nearest to where you are. The people involved in PFLAG are usually kind and trustworthy people, so they might be a good place for you to go get some advice.
08-29-2008, 10:20 PM
If you are in the bay area, I am sure that there are many resources that are not far away, but you have to find them, and find people that you can trust. In Minneapolis, we have District 202, a drop in and counseling center for G, L, B, and T youth under 21. Check it out:
Try to read most of the links on this website. They can tell you a lot, and you don't have to leave your computer to get the information. I am sure that San Francisco or Oakland must have something like it, you just have to do some searching
Do you know what the word ChickenHawk means? It usually refers to someone older than yourself, who may try to take advantage of you. Once you can find some people that you can trust, they will probably be able to tell you who to watch out for. Zerbie is right here, most of the people that you may meet at P-FLAG will be there to help.
I am posting from Minneapolis, and I am not planning on leaving. If you do connect with someone on the internet, and they want to meet you in person, just say no. They may say that they are your age, but many are often much older. I remember that the TV program 60 Minutes has run several hours of programming, showing just such people, as they came to meet their young contact, who was actually working with authorities. 60 Minutes calls them child molesters. Many of them were arrested, right on TV.
Be careful, and learn as much as you can. You've got your whole life ahead of you. You can learn a lot on the internet, and you don't have to meet anyone to do it. Being young, and gay, or bi, can be wonderful, at times.
Any other good people out there? u-dog, Andy, Jennifer, Vanessa, tdogg, we'd like to hear from you.
Peace and Love, Bruce Chris
08-30-2008, 07:53 AM
... can you think of anyone you know in the 3D world who you trust and can be an advocate for you? A family friend, an older relative who supports and loves you unconditionally, a teacher? Someone who can go to bat for you if you have a hard time getting along with your family?
Zerbie, wonderful advise as usual. Actually this is my awesome niece who just shared with me about being bisexual last night. I wanted to offer her a safe place to ask questions and share ideas so I told her she might want to come here.
Actually thank you to all of you for looking out and advising caution!
Are there many teens that belong to Soulforce? I was hoping she would find a community of peers here.
I love you so much D
08-30-2008, 07:54 AM
Dani, Zerbie and BruceChris have given you wise counsel and all I can add is my agreement.
I do hope and pray that your family comes to accept, support and love you unconditionally and can overcome any misconceptions and prejudices they may have about gay, lesbian, bi-sexual and transgender people. On the Soulforce website you will find many resources you can print and use to educate yourself and your family. There are also video messages that can be downloaded and viewed. Please use them.
Please know that you are unconditionally loved and accepted by God.
08-30-2008, 07:53 PM
Hi Dani and welcome to the site. Zerbie and BruceChris provided some good advice. Tell us more about yourself and good luck in finding a group that you can share your feelings with.
08-30-2008, 09:41 PM
Welcome! There are some sites that you can Google for young gay people. PFLAG is a great place to start. They are safe and have other places you can get connected with.
Zerbie and the others are correct. Do not give too much information about yourself. There are many predators out there and they look for young persons. Sometimes, they prey especially on young gay people whom are confused or even rejected by their families. Use extreme caution.
Sorry if I sound like a mother but my middle child is only a year younger than you.:rolleyes:
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