Clay Aiken Comes Out

[BrianB]

Clay Aiken admits he is gay. Did anyone not know that Clay was gay?

http://new.music.yahoo.com/blogs/realityrocks/101126/clay-aiken-yes-im-gay

[nervezapper]

My response to the news was "finally"

We all knew a long time ago.

[Matt Algren]

I'm glad he did it on his own timetable instead of letting anybody push him into going public before he was ready.

[nmwolfboy]

:eek: The Pope admits to being Catholic! :eek:

and

:eek: The ursine creature releases its feculence in sylvan environments! :eek:

:rofl: :rofl: :rofl: :rofl: :rofl: :rofl: :rofl: :rofl:

[Alecto]

I'm not being flip, but I could swear that this happened like a year ago? I admit I have this utter aversion to anything that's hyped too much, so American Idol was never my thing. Beyond that, I also get irritated by the amount of coverage celebrities get, so I really don't keep up with their personal lives (especially when it's folks that I don't even listen to / financially support). So, from the cave I've been living in, I still thought that he was out.

[nervezapper]

I'm not being flip, but I could swear that this happened like a year ago?........ So, from the cave I've been living in, I still thought that he was out.

I think because it is so obvious that everyone but Clay thought he was out. I think a year ago he denied it.

[u-dog]

Clay who? :confused:

[Zerbie]

Thanks, Udog. I feel better now. :p

[Daniel]

It seems that having a child can make one think about being open, honest and forthcoming. At least that seem to be the story line being put forward.

Whatever the reason for Clay's disclosure, I applaud him for it. Every person who comes out makes the world a better place.

Are you listening Mark Buse?

[pnggrad79]

Oh please, we all knew Caaallllaayyy Achin' was gay. Come on, next you're gonna tell me that Ricky Martin is gay....What are we gonna do? Everyone is coming out of the closet...It's a disease... we are all gonna be gay!!!

Please, this guy is SOOOO GAY! Anyone with any kind of functioning gaydar knew that....:rolleyes::rolleyes::rolleyes:

[keltic63]

who we talkin' bout here? that there Clay Gayken kid? :D:rolleyes:

[Unmasked]

I don't think anybody wasn't aware of this, but it is nice to see him finally out of the closet. I wonder what the effect of this on America's teen girls will be though... :)

[Vanessa White]

Yep, all of our gaydar was going off, but to have the courage to say the words publicly knowing full well the impact for others, positive and negative, is really remarkable. I applaud him as well, and parenthood may have been the catalyst, but I think we can all speak to the fact that when it is our time, it is our time; no one else can state when the right time is for us to take that brave step, on any level, celebrity or regular person....

[RedneckDyke]

Poor Clay probably agonized over this decision. I did. When I came out to my friends it was a major anticlimax. They knew for a long time.:)

[Emproph]

My response to the news was "finally"
:tup:

Oh please, we all knew Caaallllaayyy Achin' was gay. Come on, next you're gonna tell me that Ricky Martin is gay... Or Richard Simmons.
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He got famous so quick from American Idol, plus, I believe he grew up in a strict (babtist?) environment, so I can see why he was resistant to come out earlier. But joyful news nonetheless.

-Patrick

[Matt Algren]

It's so weird to me to see gays laugh at someone for having been in the closet. Sure, we all figured it out. But this smacks of some bigot saying "fuckin' faggot" to me.

[keltic63]

It's so weird to me to see gays laugh at someone for having been in the closet. Sure, we all figured it out. But this smacks of some bigot saying "fuckin' faggot" to me.

is it that, or is it because he denied the obvious for so long? for me, it's the dishonesty, and it's the issue that I feel affected me the most when I was in denial and in the closet.

[sjbouza]

Clay is gay...no...how could that be...something must have been reported wrong!

Dude...everyone knew.

Glad he has finally honest with his fans and everyone. You go girl :eek:. Well, have you seen him lately? Wow!!!

[BrianB]

It's so weird to me to see gays laugh at someone for having been in the closet. Sure, we all figured it out. But this smacks of some bigot saying "fuckin' faggot" to me.

I don't think we're laughing at him for being in the closet. We were all in the closet at one time. It is more about his closet not being a very good hiding place. Many of our own friends and family already knew about us before we told them. It's the same way with Clay Aiken.

[pnggrad79]

Now I will be the first to admit that not all gay people readily come off appearing like it. I can talk straight and even dress straight, but I am as gay as they come. Clay Aiken? His pearls fell out of his mouth the minute he opened it! Come on!

I do know the pain of being gay and being afraid to come out, but no one's gaydar was going off. It was a big surprise to everyone. It wasn't that obvious. :rolleyes:

I am glad he was finally honest with himself and his fans, and especially his newborn child. You definitely can't hide it from your kids. They are perceptive beyond belief.

[tdogg]

Everyone around us knows before we admit it, we are gay. Clay Aiken is just another one of us. We all knew, he was in the spotlight. I respect him for publically coming out and also talking about his reasons for having a child. Every person in the public eye who comes out is another step towards equality.

Sometimes I wish something could happen and closeted gays would all be outed. I know, it's a personal decision and should be. But our struggle gets frustrating, and if everyone knew who was GLBT, they would probably get over the shock quickly and move on towards equality quickly and easily.

[keltic63]

Everyone around us knows before we admit it, we are gay. Clay Aiken is just another one of us. We all knew, he was in the spotlight. I respect him for publically coming out and also talking about his reasons for having a child. Every person in the public eye who comes out is another step towards equality.

Sometimes I wish something could happen and closeted gays would all be outed. I know, it's a personal decision and should be. But our struggle gets frustrating, and if everyone knew who was GLBT, they would probably get over the shock quickly and move on towards equality quickly and easily.


we need a National Outting Day! you know, where we go to our closeted friends and say " come on out, we all know you're gay. you're not fooling anyone!" :lol:

[nervezapper]

It's so weird to me to see gays laugh at someone for having been in the closet. Sure, we all figured it out. But this smacks of some bigot saying "fuckin' faggot" to me.


I don't think we are laughing at Clay for being in the closet. All of us know we need to take our time coming out. Like others have said many of our friends and family knew before we told them. I've read many stories of friends and family saying "Finally, because I've always known" when the closeted person comes out. We're doing the same thing. It's not like we're judging Clay.

I am NOT discounting your feelings. I just wanted to let you know we were not making fun of Clay as a person.

[Matt Algren]

we need a National Outting Day! you know, where we go to our closeted friends and say " come on out, we all know you're gay. you're not fooling anyone!" :lol:
I almost did that with someone about a month ago. Like, within a mouse click from doing it. Fortunately, I thought twice.

On the one hand, he's the gayest gay that ever gayed and I want to feel his lips brush against mine as our souls intertwine and we both discover that this is what we were created for.




*ahem*

On the other hand, I don't know all the stumbling blocks in his way, and some of his blocks that I do know about are pretty big ones. And who knows if I'd send him further into the closet.

It's aggravating, to be sure.

[keltic63]

I almost did that with someone about a month ago. Like, within a mouse click from doing it. Fortunately, I thought twice.

On the one hand, he's the gayest gay that ever gayed and I want to feel his lips brush against mine as our souls intertwine and we both discover that this is what we were created for.




*ahem*

On the other hand, I don't know all the stumbling blocks in his way, and some of his blocks that I do know about are pretty big ones. And who knows if I'd send him further into the closet.

It's aggravating, to be sure.

a dear friend of mine gave me at least 3 opportunities to come out to her. I never took them. I called her when it became a crisis, and her reply was "steve, I know that already. I gave you 3 chances to tell me." :lol:

[hippie4lyfe]

ha i dragged one of my friends out, i said listen i know you are bi, now missy come with me we are going to the LGBT support group lol.

[tdogg]

I wonder, if I start a GLBT group at work, how many would actually show up. There are only 2 of us out at the location where I work, who knows how many at the main Department location and all the regional offices??? I would LOVE for more people to be out and proud at work, it sometimes seems like a lonely place...:o

OK, case in point (I have to say something, it really bothers me). As you know, I got married on Sept. 20th (yea, cheers, rah, etc.). What you don't know is there was another 'work' marriage on Sept. 20th. Neither marriage was any secret. Hers' was preceeded with much ado, exclamation and a great little shower at work where she got a present, punch & cake. Mine, a few people congratulating me and a good conversation from my boss (he's a supporter). That's it. I pretend it doesn't bother me, but deep down inside, it does. If more people were out at work, things like that wouldn't happen.

The more the merrier! :D

[Matt Algren]

I wonder, if I start a GLBT group at work, how many would actually show up. There are only 2 of us out at the location where I work, who knows how many at the main Department location and all the regional offices??? I would LOVE for more people to be out and proud at work, it sometimes seems like a lonely place...:o

OK, case in point (I have to say something, it really bothers me). As you know, I got married on Sept. 20th (yea, cheers, rah, etc.). What you don't know is there was another 'work' marriage on Sept. 20th. Neither marriage was any secret. Hers' was preceeded with much ado, exclamation and a great little shower at work where she got a present, punch & cake. Mine, a few people congratulating me and a good conversation from my boss (he's a supporter). That's it. I pretend it doesn't bother me, but deep down inside, it does. If more people were out at work, things like that wouldn't happen.

The more the merrier! :D
I want to give you a hug, but you're too far away. This'll have to do.

I'm so sorry. I can't even imagine how gutting that must be. Their silence says that your marriage is worth less than theirs, is somehow less real.

I really, really need to give you a hug.

[keltic63]

I wonder, if I start a GLBT group at work, how many would actually show up. There are only 2 of us out at the location where I work, who knows how many at the main Department location and all the regional offices??? I would LOVE for more people to be out and proud at work, it sometimes seems like a lonely place...:o

OK, case in point (I have to say something, it really bothers me). As you know, I got married on Sept. 20th (yea, cheers, rah, etc.). What you don't know is there was another 'work' marriage on Sept. 20th. Neither marriage was any secret. Hers' was preceeded with much ado, exclamation and a great little shower at work where she got a present, punch & cake. Mine, a few people congratulating me and a good conversation from my boss (he's a supporter). That's it. I pretend it doesn't bother me, but deep down inside, it does. If more people were out at work, things like that wouldn't happen.

The more the merrier! :D

I hear you! at my job (an elementary school) the teachers have a "building fund" for giving presents from the staff for various occasions and events. Christmas time means the janitors and secretaries get one gift from all the teachers; funerals, secretaries day, bosses day, etc. there's one gift from all of us. I heard that there was discussion as to whether to give me a gift for my wedding. discussion????

as it turns out, I didn't join the building fund last year because it was "cost prohibitive" I work in 2 buildings and paying to join both buildings was just too much for me. who knew I could have recouped my dues?

beyond that though, my co-workers have been supportive.

[tdogg]

We have a sunshine club, which I belong to. I'm not sure if it covered the wedding shower, but if so, I am tempted to 'de-join'. It was a pretty crappy feeling, but nothing compare to the joy and happiness I have at being married to the person I love!

Yeah, why would this be something to be discussed? Keltic, if you happened to be getting married to a woman, you know it wouldn't have been discussed, they would have just bought you a present. That sucks.