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nervezapper
09-27-2008, 11:13 AM
The news a few weeks ago about Ray Boltz coming out has really got me thinking.

I am taking a leadership class that leads to ordination as an interfaith minister. For homework we were told to write a 3 page paper about a spiritual leader. The spiritual leader could be anyone. The assignment was to be presented the first weekend of September but class got canceled so it will be presented next weekend instead. I originally wrote my paper on Ben and Jerry (of the Ben and Jerry ice cream fame), it was safe and fun, but I was not satisfied with the way the paper turned out. Now, I think I am going to write my paper on Ray Boltz.

I was talking with one of my classmates via facebook chat and told her I was thinking about changing my paper. Without knowing the story behind it she gave me some very good ideas on how to integrate my reason for changing the paper with Ray's story as well as bits of my own.

I am a bit scared and fearful. I'm not quite sure why because I know everyone (all 5 of us plus three teachers) in my class is very accepting of ALL people.

I made a commitment to myself when I started this class that I was not going to do the assignments just to get through the class. I promised myself I would give it my all. So, I had to really think about that Ben and Jerry paper and if I presented it would I really be giving my all? Hmmm, makes me think about some lyrics of Rays "What if I give all I have?
What will that gift do? My child, a gift like that could change the world"

This wouldn't be the first bold and gutsy thing I've done recently. A couple days ago I walked away from a job that was robbing me of my health and sanity from the stress. And no, I didn't have another job, other than a day to day temp job, lined up. I just leaped. The last leadership class we listened to Jesus CEO and one of the questions we answered was "If I had the courage I would..." My answer was "quit my job to pursue other interests". Well, I did that, so outing myself to my classmates should be easy right?

Daniel
09-27-2008, 02:41 PM
That does sound bold and gutsy.

A question crossed my mind in reading your post: How is writing about someone else outing yourself? Are you going to reveal in your paper that you are gay? Or are you going to let the listening draw his/her own conclusions?

If the former (and I'm sure you're way ahead on this one), I encourage you to think about the commonality between your subjects- that is- yourself and Ray.

Pablo Rafael
09-28-2008, 05:39 PM
There are times to play it safe and times to push the envelope a little. I think it is a great idea to use Ray Boltz as the subject of your paper. Every time a connection can be made between a gay person's sexual orientation and their spirituality, it breaks down that barrier that says one can't be gay and Christian. I have been trying in my own life to help break down that barrier. Things improve one person at a time.

Thumbs up on your bold and gutsy move. :tup:

kara speltz
09-28-2008, 07:41 PM
I made a commitment to myself when I started this class that I was not going to do the assignments just to get through the class. I promised myself I would give it my all. So, I had to really think about that Ben and Jerry paper and if I presented it would I really be giving my all? Hmmm, makes me think about some lyrics of Rays "What if I give all I have?
What will that gift do? My child, a gift like that could change the world"



I say go for it! There's an amazing freedom that happens when you claim your trust that God will guide you and protect you. Ray's words in that song, are definately a challenge for each and every one of us, to let go of the illusion that we're in charge, and, as they say in AA, "let go and let God."

kara

nervezapper
10-02-2008, 10:36 AM
I did it. I changed my paper and I am really happy with the way it turned out. We will be reading them aloud in class sometime Friday evening or Saturday.

Here is the final paragraph, the one where I come out.

"The other reason I chose him as a spiritual leader is because his story is also mine. Wearing the mask is too painful; I can no longer hide who I am. For the lack of a better term, I am gay. We see and hear of more and more people coming out. “Alternative” lifestyles are being brought into the light. With the help of people like Ray Boltz inroads are being made into segments of society that were not open. The cracks are getting wider, and the light is starting to shine through."

One of my classmates will not be there this weekend so I e-mailed her a copy of the paper. I just got her response, it was awesome as I knew it would be.

A few weeks ago we had our local Pride festival. I e-mailed the organizers and was invited to a coming out support group. It meets tonight and I am going to check it out.

BruceChris
10-02-2008, 10:57 AM
Give us updates, and keep in touch.

Peace and Love, Bruce Chris

Zerbie
10-02-2008, 09:07 PM
Congratulations on your big step!!
:love: