ctozrn
10-20-2008, 01:10 PM
Hi everyone,
I just wanted to give everyone a quick update. As of Fri. night, my gf and I have decided to see if we can work things out. I went to see my therapist on Fri. I was surprised at her reaction to our breakup. We had been seeing her together as well. She thought the breakup seemed impulsive and not well thought out. I called my gf and asked her if she wanted to have dinner at a nice restaurant. We had a very long discussion about our relationship. We decided to give it 6 months. We will not threaten or bring up breaking up at all during that time. We will see our therapist, make some changes to our relationship and see where we are in 6 months.
I am proud of myself in the fact that I was willing to be alone. It was going to be hard but I had made peace with it. I know we are doing this for the right reasons. It is funny, I also had a discussion with my boss who is straight. She said that she noticed that gay couples seem to give up so easily, probably due to not being able to have that committment of marriage. She gave me a pep talk about committment. It really made me think.
What really gave me second thoughts was the kids. I didn't want to disrupt their lives if it wasn't necessary. I had to ask myself if I was being hasty and how all this would affect them. Was it worth it?
I spent the weekend with the kids on their youth retreat. It was awesome. I will have to write about that later as there is much to tell. I came back missing my gf and ready to try again. Thank you to everyone for all the support!!
Christine
I just wanted to give everyone a quick update. As of Fri. night, my gf and I have decided to see if we can work things out. I went to see my therapist on Fri. I was surprised at her reaction to our breakup. We had been seeing her together as well. She thought the breakup seemed impulsive and not well thought out. I called my gf and asked her if she wanted to have dinner at a nice restaurant. We had a very long discussion about our relationship. We decided to give it 6 months. We will not threaten or bring up breaking up at all during that time. We will see our therapist, make some changes to our relationship and see where we are in 6 months.
I am proud of myself in the fact that I was willing to be alone. It was going to be hard but I had made peace with it. I know we are doing this for the right reasons. It is funny, I also had a discussion with my boss who is straight. She said that she noticed that gay couples seem to give up so easily, probably due to not being able to have that committment of marriage. She gave me a pep talk about committment. It really made me think.
What really gave me second thoughts was the kids. I didn't want to disrupt their lives if it wasn't necessary. I had to ask myself if I was being hasty and how all this would affect them. Was it worth it?
I spent the weekend with the kids on their youth retreat. It was awesome. I will have to write about that later as there is much to tell. I came back missing my gf and ready to try again. Thank you to everyone for all the support!!
Christine