Hey Guyz

[Assured]

I dont know if any of you remember me from Autumn 2007 when i first joined SoulForce and poured my heart out. Well, i left for a while to allow my feelings to settle and to allow God to do whatever in my heart. I am now out as a lesbian and very happy and i would like to thank TDogg{i think it was} and Zerbie and any other people that gave me words of wisdom at that time.

I dont know if this is the right place but i need some advice on where a young {still coming out} lesbian can seek assistance in leaving her homophobic household. She is an honours student in Miami, well behaved, church going, but not out to her family because of the Christian Homophobia and now she is having issues just living her every day life after college because she sometimes has meetings for organisations that she is connected to. She gets her cell phone taken off her by her Mother and her car keys and even attempts to take away her laptop simply for coming in late {after alerting the parent that she would be late}

The reasons are that she is a free thinker and yesterday she expressed stuff about the Bible being written by man and how the Israel issue is because of the same type of religious arguments that the church spouts about certain people being GODS SPECIAL PEOPLE. As a result of this, and her being involved in after college activities{she is 20 years old} she gets grounded and wants to move out .

Does anyone know where she could get some support in the Miami area. She is really ready to get out of there, all she wants is to do well at college, eat and have clean clothes and live in peace. I live in the UK so i am not a great help.

Thanks

Love You All

[Zerbie]

You're welcome. Thank you for the good news update.

RE your friend, I assume she works at least part time? Every little $ helps to get out of the parental household, which she very much needs to.

Try roommate listings on and around campus. Every university has students looking for roommates to share rental costs on houses and apartments near campus. If she's concerned about homophobic roommates, try asking the campus LGBTQ group if they have a place that posts roommate requests.

[Alecto]

By me, off-campus housing cost about the same as on-campus; I have friends that just found someone who would let them stay the summer. (Does she live at home while she goes to school, or does she go away to school?). I'd definitely check with the campus group if only because they're more likely to have local resources, even if they don't have much to offer themselves besides support.

[tdogg]

Hi Assured!! I remember you. :D Way to go. I'm so glad you are happy now.

Maybe one idea for your friend is to check with PFLAG, perhaps they have info on families or persons that would take in a college student. I would be happy to add to our growing household (my wife's cousin lives with us now, left her husband), but we are completely across the nation!!

It's really good to hear from you. :love:

[Assured]

I appreciate all the replies. My friend lives at home while going to college. She graduates in May and then goes to Uni in the Fall and it's at this point that she will be away from her family home but it's about how she is going to survive between now and then. I am hoping that she will be able to implement her plan of coming here to the UK for 2 of those months. I spoke to her last night and she was saying that she doesnt know what she is going to do. Mum took the car keys but she says she will just tough it out and carry on living her life in the same way with or without a car. She says she WILL NOT BE BROKEN by this. She is waiting to hear about a job she is supposed to start in the not too distant future. She says she will not change her activities to suit her Mum.{grimaces} She is a Grade A student and is very grounded for her age but the Mum is paranoid possibly about her gettin pregnant which is SO FAR REMOVED from the actuality of the situation. Well at least she got her cell phone back.

Yes TDogg i remember you tellin me i was a lesbian and thinking...{WHAT!!} You were saying how i was in denial and lying to myself and now i realize that i certainly was. You said a number of other heart wrenching truths which shook my system and gave me food for thought. I stayed away so that i knew i was not going to be influenced too much by the Soul Force Community and my plan of action seems to have worked because life will ALWAYS play itself out.

I appreciate you all and look forward to having some Spiritual discussions in the near future with my new understanding of The Spiritual Realm.{i have had a total transformation...lol} and it's NOT connected to my sexuality at all.

With Universal Love