i need help

[changedheart]

guys im fay but i have always been taught its wrong and im so heartbroken

[Jennifer5]

Welcome. :wave:

Are you looking for any specific information?

I for on strongly believe that there is NOTHING wrong with being gay. I believe God, or whoever you believe in will love you no matter what. I know that I do not judge a person's sexuality when I consider them a friend, I have many gay friends and I love them all!

Perhaps you will find the following link helpful....
http://www.soulforce.org/article/homosexuality-bible


Tell us more about yourself! :love:

[Zerbie]

Talk. Ask questions. We're here.
:)

[changedheart]

i have always been taught its wrong so anytime i have anything to do wit it i feel guitly how can i change my way of thinkin

[Daniel]

Read Mel White's books.

[Rick336]

i have always been taught its wrong so anytime i have anything to do wit it i feel guitly how can i change my way of thinkin

I was in your situation 35 years ago. When I finally accepted that my sexual orientation was completely natural for me as well as millions of others like me, I began to live a much happier and fulfilling life and it has been that way ever since.

I agree with Daniel's advice. Read Mel White's books. Google "Mel White" and find what books he has written. Order one or two and read them from amazon.com. His insight and experience can be extremely helpful.

But whatever you do, please keep coming back to this forum. There are many caring and intelligent people here who can offer great advice.

Talk to us and let us know more about what's troubling you.

Rick

[scott snedeker]

It sounds as if you are just summoning enough courage to make a statement that you have intimate attraction to your own gender.


Interaction with other gay folk might be so frightening right now that you are overwhelmed.


Right now you may only be able to read to change how you feel about yourself.

That's ok

You have been taught falsley that you are anything but a special being.

below is a letter to the editor I wrote years ago.


Dear Editor,
Imagine the time in your adolescence when you were discovering your sexual awareness. Now Imagine being told that your feelings of sexual attraction make you a worthless deviant because you feel them toward the same sex. So to survive you hide this secret and stifle the growth of your emerging identity and learn to hate yourself. This is psychological child abuse at its worst.
Then imagine the miracle of courageously overcoming this self loathing imposed by your past abuse. This epiphany restores your sense that you are a person deserving of happiness, equal worthiness and love. A hard fought internal struggle won by myself and many other gay people.
Now imagine being told the same false message by your state, your congress and even your president. Our leaders claim they are entitled to legislate their hate toward gay people and permanently incorporate it into our nation's constitution. This example sends a message of sanctioned malevolence and inequality to our children learning in school today. This is homphobia at its most shameful.
Some say being gay is a choice. They are half right. You can choose to be true to your nature and experience passion, romance and love, all essential parts of a balanced normal life. Or you can falsely pretend to be attracted to the opposite sex and live an empty passionless lie.
The undeniable battle for equal civil rights for gay people is on in Washington. I believe our nation's destiny is to overcome homophobia. However we need to stop permitting the psychological abuse of our children. A pivotal point of history is in the making. Ask yourself. Do you wish to align with those who hate, fear and discriminate or those who will help overcome obstacles in pursuit of the ideal of equality and healing?
Scott W. Snedeker MD.
June 7 2006



My advice is to take the time to consider the recommendations we give to you, and that is read, read read read!!!!

Fill your awareness with Affirmation hour after hour to balance out and undo what homophobes have done.

Talk about the affirming messages here on this forum.

Let go of the false messages. Don't give your moments over to them. Stop yourself when you find yourself repeating them and replace with with one of the affirming messages you have recently read.

It takes time. Your mind is like a puppy. At first the puppy will pee on the floor (repeating homophobic messages). Gently bring the puppy back to the affirming messages. Don't hit the puppy (Don't beat up yourself) just bring her back gently

[kara speltz]

guys im fay but i have always been taught its wrong and im so heartbroken


My recommendation is to find a faith community that is welcoming. I'm blessed to be fully out within my Roman Catholic parish, and I even preach there. Being with other people of faith, helps break the sense of shame and isolation. To that end, check out these URLs and you probably will find that there's a welcoming church not too far from you.

Kara

http://www.welcomingresources.org/directory.htm
http://www.welcomingchurches.com/

[Jennifer5]

Ask us anything, we can help you! :love:

[BruceChris]

You did not mention where you live, but if you are near a fair sized city, there will probably be a chapter of Parents, Friends and Family of Lesbians and Gays, P-FLAG for short.

They probably have a phone number that you can leave a message at, you may find someone there to talk to, and usually once a month they have meetings where there will be both gay, and sympathetic straight people that you can meet.

For stuff online, try Googling "Gay and Christian", or "Christian and gay". There's all kindsa stuff out there. (Like us!)

And according to Wikipedia, Fay can also mean Gay.

Peace and Love, Bruce Chris