Hello

[Love]

Hi, I'm going by Love to protect myself.

I'm a bisexual female married to a man. I told my husband 6 months ago I'm physically attracted to women but we never talked about it. I wanna be with him, I don't doubt that. I just wanna be able to tell him "I'm bisexual." I don't know what would change. Probably nothing but it would be out there and he would know. I can't tell my family, they would never see me the same way and it's not worth it. I know my husband would not be mad but I'm afraid to say anything about it to him because he will make stupid comments to me. He'll think it's funny and try to joke about it and it'll make me uncomfortable. Has anyone here had this situation?

[Zerbie]

Hello Love,

Hugs. :love:
I cannot imagine feeling unable to share myself with my partner. How did he respond when you mentioned being attracted to other females? Did he make jokes then? Were they jokes that disrespected you, or could the jokes have been an attempt to be light and have fun?

To play devil's advocate, if you've told him that you feel attractions to women, then maybe he knows you are bisexual. I guess it depends how well you know each other and how well you communicate. Have you made it clear to him that he is your one and only? Have you told him so? Valentine's is coming soon, that will be a good time to say outright that he is your one and only love. (Well, any time is good for that, but Valentines is a built-in occasion for it.) He may otherwise feel like you mentioned attraction to others out of an interest in pursuing something with someone else.

If your husband jokes about you in ways that make you feel bad, and he does this routinely, that in itself is a problem to be addressed. Partners need to show respect for one another, not tear each other down. I'm not sure what exactly you are describing when you say he would make jokes.

[Love]

Hello Love,

Hugs. :love:
I cannot imagine feeling unable to share myself with my partner. How did he respond when you mentioned being attracted to other females? Did he make jokes then? Were they jokes that disrespected you, or could the jokes have been an attempt to be light and have fun?

To play devil's advocate, if you've told him that you feel attractions to women, then maybe he knows you are bisexual. I guess it depends how well you know each other and how well you communicate. Have you made it clear to him that he is your one and only? Have you told him so? Valentine's is coming soon, that will be a good time to say outright that he is your one and only love. (Well, any time is good for that, but Valentines is a built-in occasion for it.) He may otherwise feel like you mentioned attraction to others out of an interest in pursuing something with someone else.

If your husband jokes about you in ways that make you feel bad, and he does this routinely, that in itself is a problem to be addressed. Partners need to show respect for one another, not tear each other down. I'm not sure what exactly you are describing when you say he would make jokes.

Thanks, Zerbie :)

I'm sorry for not being a little more clear when I said he'll make jokes. I think in his mind he's trying to be funny and light but it embarasses me. When I told him initially, he was kinda shocked of course, but then came the little comments and jokes like asking me about what I think about girls and stuff and it made me very uncomfortable and I kinda refused to talk about it further. I guess he knows that I'm bisexual but we don't talk about it. I don't know if it's always in the back of his mind. I have told him repeatedly the entire time we've been together that I want to be with him forever (before and after "coming out") so I'm sure he knows.

[Jennifer5]

Welcome Love. :wave:

Don't be so sure that he knows that you still want to be with him, he may be really unsure about things right now. I would assume that he's afraid of losing you right now. He needs to hear that you still love him the way that you always did. :love:

I hope that you'll stick around so we can get to know you a little better. :)