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iluvlucy2006
06-15-2009, 05:52 PM
i just saw the documentary based on this campaign. they went to my school, cal baptist in riverside. i was attending the school the year the bus came around, and had already been struggling with keeping in the closet. if only i knew the bus was there, wow that would have changed things.

my school had kicked me out once for 'being depressed' but, i know that it was because i was outed by an old roommate who found out i was a lesbian. i fought, and was able to come back the following fall. still in the closet, i tried to follow the rules, and act like the others. but, this past school year i couldn't take the closet anymore. it was election time, and here in california, we had prop 8 to deal with. everywhere you looked on my campus there were banners, stickers, special chapels saying vote yes on prop 8, talking about how wrong the sin was, that you should love the person, hate the sin, i heard it on the radio, it was a topic in ALL of my classes. I was forced to stay in my apartment on campus because i wasn't able to handle it, not to mention i had no one to talk to about it because the 2 friends i had told stopped talking to me.

we lost prop 8, and school got back to normal except for my one class, that just happened to be taught by a greek orthodox priest, my luck. the gave a 2 week lecture on gay history. i liked learning about it, but it was filled with negativity, hate, discrimination. i spoke out many times, and walked out of more than half of those classes. i got an F in that class.

it isn't easy to go to my school, and since i saw how my school treated the bus riders, i am going to have to leave, because that is obviously what they think of me.

if ever possible, i would love to be apart of the bus ride, and especially to go to my school, i feel better about myself when i am not there, i am sad that a school i tried so hard to get back into, and had to much pride in, could treat people so badly.

Gennee
06-16-2009, 10:09 PM
Hi, Tiffany. I'm sorry about what happened. I attended a Christian college myself. I came out to myself as transgender in 2005 and graduated in 2007. I really couldn't come out and looking back it was the right decision.

I'm sure that you feel disappointed but where one door closes another one opens. Right now I feel sad :( for you because of what you went through. I pray that there is no bitterness in your heart. Be proud of who you are and strive to make other's lives better.

Welcome to Soulforce.

Gennee
:love::love::love::love::pray::pray::wave::wave:

LaDama137
06-17-2009, 10:26 PM
Welcome, Tiffany!
I also came out to myself at a Christian college. I know how people would have felt if they had known, and honestly, I would have been expelled. The thing is though, I know that there is a lot that they don't know. There are perspectives that the administration doesn't have because they don't know that those perspectives exist.
I'll be praying for you...I know it's not exactly a delightful environment to be in. But no matter what folks say, God loves you!!! Just keep delighting in Him!

turquoise
06-17-2009, 10:42 PM
tiffany - keep on trucking! :) the Lord is with you no matter what you go threw. I am just coming out to myself and to select individuals. it is hard to guess their reaction. but find yourselve some new friends that you can trust or go to pflag or the local pride center. you're not alone and don't be alone in your struggle. it's worth it! (maybe find a school that is more gay friendly) i'll be praying for you. turquoise:confused:

Jennifer5
07-06-2009, 06:52 PM
Welcome :wave:

drobs
07-07-2009, 01:59 AM
Welcome aboard. Graduated from Bethel College (now Bethel University) in MN. There's other schools to go to. Find a college that you can enjoy yourself at. College should be fun. If it's not go somewhere else.

Tip for you, not sure what year in school you are, but if you've been there 2 or more years get an associates from them. You've paid for it already. If your near your senior year, try to stick it out. Or research what you can transfer to another school.

Finally, look into CLEP tests. These are tests you can take for college credit. They are usually held at the local community collge and cost $30 to $50ish. I was able to test out of a 1/2 of year at college using clep tests. I took these while I was in college.

The test are pass/fail and you can use them to replace Gen Ed classes. You only need to get a passing grade on the test (which is like a C) for it to count. Check with your advisor to get them approved. I was able to test out of a bunch of 2nd & 3rd year gen ed courses -- like World Civ 2, and some psychology - sociology courses.

Find the 2nd level CLEP test of a class you've already taken. Also look for titles that match classes you've already taken and passed.