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06-04-2006, 10:22 PM
Hi, how is it going?
To keep this quick, I am basically a closeted bisexual (recently discovered), and I have no idea what I should be doing about that, if anything. I'm trying to learn as much as I can about it, but I feel it important to also try and find some support as I have hardly any good friends these days.
I am also considering checking out an all inclusive church in the area just to see what its like, or mainly to see if I would like it.
I am in the process of writing a letter to my parents, which I imagine will take a while to finish, but in it I plan to detail my hidden struggle with depression, self injury, and suicidal thoughts brought on by my having to accept the fact that I am bisexual. By the way, I come from a traditional Christian background. (Traditional in the sense of their views on any form of same sex attraction.) The problem is, I still live with them, and they help pay for school, so if things go sour I'll be in a mess. But I am tired of feeling like I am lying to myself and those close to me. 5 months of counseling helped me to know at least that much.
Anyway, I hope this will be an unforgettable journey, somehow!
06-05-2006, 12:25 AM
I'm sorry that you're having a hard time, there are many here who will know how to help you along the way... they're a very supportive group!
I hope you find yourself at home here and hope to hear more from you!:love: :love: :love:
06-05-2006, 01:14 AM
Hey, man, why should you tell all this stuff to your family? You don't lie, you just have a right for a small personal secret. and, besides, bisexual doesn't mean gay yet - it means that you've probably not yet decided where to go...:)
06-05-2006, 01:28 AM
Predator Boy.... just follow you heart and make sure that you don't lie to yourself! Things will work out how there supposed with your family, when the time is right. But you can't lie to yourself, just follow your heart... you know what's best for you more then anyone else.:love:
06-05-2006, 07:21 AM
*hugs* I hope things get easier for you soon and I will pray for you.
06-05-2006, 12:38 PM
Hello and welcome! Sorry to hear about the challenge you are facing between wanting to be open with your parents, and concern about school funding.
Since I have a big mouth, I am going to open it and make a suggestion:
Five months is NOT a long time. Many people spend years contemplating in silence and privacy before coming out at all, to anyone. Sometimes, when a discovery this big is being made, it is so new to us, it is the big important thing in our lives - but that doesn't make it the appropriate time for coming out to others, especially people as invested as parents. Wait to tell your parents until you are sure, sure, sure, and there is definitely something to tell them.
That said, only you know if now is the time and you must share that letter with them. But I do suggest you take your time. Be certain of who you are and how you feel. I am assuming you are over 18. - if you are not, then that complicates things further.
If you are interested in other peoples' experiences coming out as bi, pop over to the main forum and check out the thread called "Your thoughts/musings, about bisexuality." Several of us have shared our histories on that board, and perhaps something there will be meaningful to you.
All the best. Z
06-05-2006, 09:28 PM
I like what Zerbie said: five months isn't that much time to wait. I waited almost a decade to come out to my parents....not that you have to wait that long. ;)
But there's nothing wrong with taking the time to explore this new side of yourself. In the meantime, pop over to the message boards at http://gaychristian.net. They're very welcoming.
06-06-2006, 12:07 AM
I appreciate everyone's advice on the issue of coming out to my parents.
Thanks for that link, too.
I'm not in a rush to come out to the folks, but I don't want to put it off because I think they have at least some right to know what I've gone through and what good has come out of my journey thus far (yes, I can now say that this is part of the good stuff ;) ). But yeah, I have to agree it'd be good to explore myself and the issue before I take any action, whether this year or years to come.
I'm liking you guys already (as I have peeked around some other threads, posting on that one Zerbie mentioned), and I am looking forward to getting to know alot of you more as this progresses.
06-07-2006, 07:56 AM
I believe that our sexuality is a beautiful gift from God, and can be a wonderful part of our lives. Please visit when you can, and get to know us.:love:
Peace and Love, BruceChris
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