James- I'm so sorry to hear that your state voted as it did. I can imagine the heartache: NY's court decided this summer that gay people do not have a constitutional right to marry, and in the days after that, everyone I knew felt like their guts had been kicked in. But things can change. They must change. They will change. We now have a democratic governor on the horizon, one who has delcared that he will introduce legislation for gay marriage. So goes NY, or NJ for that matter, so goes the rest of the country. And that is as it should be. It may not come tomorrow, but it will come, of that I am confident. It may be plain folly on my part, but my observation is that things contract before they expand- and we're getting ready to expand.
Let's get out the hat stretchers.
Be the love you seek.