Ack, you got to this before I did...heheh..
South Africa knows in heart that separate IS NEVER equal. They are just over a decade out of Apartheid, and they are further ahead then America. Remember, it took only a few years for South Africa to integrate its Armed Forces. You know how long it took America? Perhaps over a century.
I really think the US is so utterly slow to adapt to equal rights. Some people in this country think they are special and deserve all the rights, while gays and lesbians deserve nothing. Certainly we have made astounding progress in the last thirty years, and the younger generations show many signs of being way more accepting then previous ones... but this country still has aging fanatics ranting about their traditional values and how gays and lesbians are not entitled to equal rights. This sort of conservative fanaticism is slowly withering away.
What is objectionable, what is dangerous, about extremists is not that they are extreme, but that they are intolerant. The evil is not what they say about their cause, but what they say about their opponents. - Robert F. Kennedy