Maybe you would want to consider getting cards made, ones with maybe a picture of the three of you on the front... they would be sweet and relativley simple... they don't exactly say her I am except me as I am or leave me alone, but more just says that here's my family and I love them, Merry Christmas..... or even to go one step simpler, you could just get any old store bought Christmas card that you like, and inside just put a small picture of all of you... once again, simple, saying I love you but his IS who I am whether you like it or not. I don't know, just a thought. Good Luck finding what you want! If you get an idea of what you're looking for let us know and we'll try and help you find what you're looking for.
