But the temptation to engage in spiritual violence continues to increase when anti-gays refuse to listen to civil expression and consistently use spritual violence. Most of us just snap.
Don't snap....try mindful breathing.....don't respond in anger on websites....walk away from your computer.....breathe....and breathe deep....walk through the house slowly breathing....it is a walking meditiation.
When you are calm, then reply. When you can answer their hate, no matter how strong and know their hate comes from a place of pain and suffering. WHen we see others suffer, we should bring compassion. Compassion will transform them. It may take a few tries to make this happen, but trust me, it will.
Here is what I suggest.....
Take a yellow sticky note and put it on the monitor of your computer. Write on the sticky BREATHE.......It will remind you to breath and plan your words before answering the next anti-gay post. Answer them with compassion because you know that the hate, anger and fear comes from a place of pain and suffering. Comfort them from their pain, but change not who you are.....a gay man. Be stern, but loving. Be compassionate, but honest. Don't use words like "bigot" or "homophobe".
Attack the forces of evil, not the person doing the evil.....(MLK)
Trust me this works.....