I read Dr. White's book with interest. It was one of the things that led me to a point of self-acceptance, and it helped start me down the path of coming out after 40 years as a closeted evangelical.
But I have noticed something disturbing since I began this journey. There are a number of good resources for reinterpreting the Biblical passages used against homosexuals. Invariably these are written from a conservative standpoint -- the historicity of Sodom and Gomorrah isn't questioned, the exclusive claims of Christ aren't challenged, etc. I have yet to find an inclusive church that treats the Bible in this manner.
I joined a liberal, American Baptist church with the attitude of tolerating their beliefs to gain acceptance in a Christian community. I didn't like the fact that they ridiculed the virgin birth, but I kept my mouth shut. I didn't like the fact that they embraced religious pluralism, but I believed the pastor's assurances that some of the older church members were as conservative as I. I disagreed with their stance on evolution vs. creationism, but I decided to learn instead of voicing objections. After all, I had been the "liberal" member of a conservative Baptist church, and I didn't want to be the "conservative" member of a liberal church.
But over time, they crossed a threshold. I wanted acceptance as a gay Christian male. Yet I wasn't prepared to ditch Christian theology for "trans-rationalism", "esoteric Christianity" (gnosticism), and other far-out beliefs that struck me as hypocritical, given their contempt for supernatural elements of conservative theology. I stopped attending, because I am not willing to become what I have always considered "cultic" just to gain acceptance as a gay man.
I don't think there are any churches in my city that are inclusive of gays but could otherwise be categorized as within the limits of traditional Christianity. Yet the approach to winning support for gays among conservative evangelicals is to approach the Bible as they approach it. I need someone to tell me this is an honest endeavor. Can I remain an otherwise conservative evangelical while being open about my homosexuality? Can otherwise conservative evangelicals embrace me as a gay Christian without also opening the door to theological heresies?
In the final analysis, I think I would rather give up attending church than -- just for the sake of being accepted as gay -- to embrace things I have always considered theological error. Am I the only person who's experienced this?