Apathy is a hard one - I have friends who think because I'm recently out (just the last few years) and they've been out for a while or their entire lives, that's why I feel so passionate about equality and actually doing something. Yeah, they used to feel that way to and want to do something, become involved. but now, they are just living their lives. Fine, but apathetic. Possibly the level of passion in a person dictates the level of their commitment?
I believe it is much harder in a openly gay and lesbian community like SF. These are people who are out in the open, live their lives as gay people and go about their business not caring much if someone else doesn't like them. It's easier to get something organized where folks are more in the closet or at least there are issues when they are out. Sometimes being more oppressed will lead to greater action.
No answers here either. Frustrating and stymies are progress, but gotta deal.
"Struggle is a never ending process. Freedom is never really won, you earn it and win it in every generation."
Coretta Scott King