agree w/ you about fundies in regards to victim/martyr mentality. Being raised in such an enviornment, they referred to themselves proudly as the "saved" & others as "apart of the World." However, they were eager in trying to convert others in the denomination. Unfortunantly, once "saved," certain behavior was expected: conservative beliefs, use of KJV or NIV only, submissive wives, etc... If one went too far from the "accepted views," he or she may be ostracized, sort of... Church members became "cliquish" - hope this makes sense.
Anyway, thank God for the progressive denominations who do not share such a mentality.