The church leader can do some great and terrible things. But I think you go a little easy on their flock. I realize when you are conditioned to shut up and listen and blindly obey from day one, it can take an act of God to jar you from the stupor. When it comes, it is not welcome. But it comes, and you question and then you CHOOSE to remain a pious tool, or you grow a little, look around and see your leader for the inspired, wise and fallible human being that they are. If you choose to remain a blind follower, then on your head may it be. "The Preacher told me so" is a lame excuse for an adult.
The good and bad news, is we somewhat are that act of God that knocks the comfort zone askew. We can cause the questioning to begin and that is a threat to any leader. No surprise we are less than popular, and the gay thing may have nothing to do with it.