Wouldn't it stand to reason that god can only be a male or a female if s/he/it has a limited physical form that reproduces sexually?
Not making light of YOUR post either, Keltic, I don't intend it that way - rather to emphasize your point while at the same time moving beyond it. God is the maleness and the femaleness and the source behind and beyond them both.
I use pronouns when talking about God. I happen to think in the feminine form, but when talking to others about God I usually use the pronoun "he" because that is the way many people I know are used to talking about God. As HE, the Lord. And so, why not use the words? the words are not God, never could be, they are only markers pointing a direction. Ultimately, the words go away.