Originally Posted by Progo35
I will certainly pray for your kids. I know that this kind of stuff is rough. If it's at all helpful, I would advise your two oldest to seek solace in each other when their aunt starts to say mean things, and also to bring something to help take their mind off it or help them think through it, like music on a portable CD player, which can be vindicating and soothing.
Yes, but my daughter is hoping to escape on her own by meeting up with a friend from college who lives in the area. That will leave my oldest son with no one to hang with on at least one of the days.
the music is a given. they'll both have their Ipods with them. My son also borrowed a book from me, so that should help him spend the time.
u-dog: as you suspected I did all of that. I also pointed out, reminded him, that much of this, esp from his mother, was really nothing new. I experienced a lot of these kinds of things when I was in the marriage. She's just redirecting the behaviors toward the kids. It took some time with a therapist for me to see that outside of my orientation, I was in a bad marriage! Much of what happened in the marriage, the things that went wrong, had nothing to do with my being gay. when I discovered that the marriage was lost, it made it easier for me to come out, or at least explore that part of me that I had denied for so long.