Originally Posted by Daniel
Of course, these factors have only added to the onus of being 'different' seeing that the family 'dynamic' is hardly conducive for change. It's skewed things as far as being able to address matters. And the times I have endeavored to do so- even in the most unconfrontational way- have gone nowhere. One is met with silence.
So- in brief- while we see each other in body, I have struggled my whole life with a feeling of disconnection. Of course, they have too.
It's a matter that's never far from my mind.
let's talk about the weather. let's talk about what happened at the school board meeting. let's talk about doctor's appointments, and what kind of gas mileage we're getting, and how much the electric bill was this month. But don't dare mention how thrilled I am with my relationship, how much I love my boyfriend, or even that we had a delicious dinner at the home of another gay couple.
Neither one of us have told our parents about our Commitment Ceremony. He we are, excitedly planning for our big day, and we can't imagine how we're going to tell our parents. We "see" our parents regularly. Scott sees his mom and dad nearly every day. I see mine at least once a week. Shouldn't it be easy to announce that we're getting married? nope, we've been conditioned, much like B.F. Skinner showed with pigeons and Pavlov with his dogs, talk about anything gay, and the room goes silent. How can people in such close proximity be so far apart?