[BenL]

KennethJ,

I'm a gay man married to a transman. Charley, my spouse, began transition from female to male two and a half years ago. When he/we told our son and daughter, who are grown and out of the house, what Charley was doing, both children reacted very angrily.

We haven't spoken to our daughter since. She demanded that we stay out of her life. Last month she and her husband moved to the UK without telling us. We only found out a week or two ago from her brother.

Our son has begun to come around. We talk to him regularly on the telephone. In June, we saw him for the second or third time since Charley started transition. He lives in DC, and we live in MA. We see progress on his part, so we're not pushing for more. He still refuses to discuss anything about his mom's transition with us.

My parents are both dead, and I was an only child. I'm no longer close to my cousins, who are scattered all over the country. Charley's siblings are supportive, if a bit clueless, but we don't see them all that often.

Another couple we know (he's trans, she's a bio woman) are expecting a baby in April through artificial insemination with donor sperm. They have already told us that we will be the kid's local grandpas, since both their families live so far away. I find my true family now is my chosen family.