Originally Posted by KennethJ
I would like to bring the thread back to the original focus of conservation between people who have experienced estrangement from family. I'm really not looking for 'advice' from anyone, ESPECIALLY from people who haven't been there.
It was the fear of estrangement that kept me from telling my parents for so long that I'm bisexual. I truly believed that they would cease talking with me if I came out of the closet. After much thought and prayer I wrote them each a letter to explain that I was involved with gay pride and that several of my friends at school were gay. Then I told them in the letter that I'm bisexual.
I fully expected that they would tell me that I was dead to them. The reality was that my mom said she loved me even though she believed homosexuality is sin. She did not want to hear about anything connected to gay activities. That limited our conversation quite a bit. My dad said he didn't have a problem with it; at the same time he didn't want to discuss it. That was my private life.
Mom asked me not to tell anyone else in the family because she knew that some family members would cease contact if they knew. So far, the issue has not come up with other family members. They live in other states so it's not as important that they know. If they ask me point blank, I will tell them.