What's important is not what feelings we have but what we do with them. In other words, if you are going to act on a powerful emotion such as anger or such as raw sexual attraction, then what matters is HOW you express those things, and what you do in the world with those expressions.
Anger is neither wrong nor right. It just happens. It gives us information about how we are perceiving the world and how we've been treated. When angry we can either take it out on some innocent bystander, or buy a gun and gun down the person we hold responsible, or we can take steps to eliminate the problem by peacefully confronting that person. or if it is part of a larger social pattern, by engaging in a community or political group that seeks to reform the problem. So anger is a motivator, but what we choose to do with it can vary greatly person to person or moment to moment.
Likewise sexual feelings and attractions - the feelings themselves simply occur. What matters is what we do with them. Do we pursue relationships that end up mutually destructive, do we over-engage in so many sexual relationships that we close ourselves off to the wider possibilities of relationships? Do we fear our feelings so much that we never express them and thus withhold our love from the world and deny ourselves the possibility of being loved in return? or do we cultivate one relationship deeply, lovingly, giving all our attention to our partner and receiving all of their devotion in return?
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