Emproph, I think your point is exactly what the thread, 'caution, this makes you gay' has lead into. That is why we are frightening. We have gone through what others have yet to. We know rejection and we know what its like to have our secrets ripped from us and spread around to everyones delightful little demeaning giggles. It is an perephiral perk of being gay...
Another thought as to being stripped to pure, honest beingness... I've often imagined what it would be like if we actually were able to read each others minds. Say. mini speakers in all foreheads, blurting out every uncensored thought instantaneously. The scarey first question when two 'friends" meet, "so, what do you really think of me? What is the last thing you want me to know?" and visa-versa. The first encounter will be one of pure confession... Pose this concept to a few people and notice thier reaction. It is quite revealing and speaks volumes as to how honest they are. There are those rare ones who would be fine with it, but most get a chill and dread the thought... That is where I believe Heaven is an option and some may not choose the honesty it will require of us.