Originally Posted by BrianB
Zerbie, you said it very eloquently. Bisexual people can not turn off their attraction for both sexes. The choice come in when we choose to be faithful to our partner. If my partner happens to be the opposite sex that is not hiding. If my partner happens to be a man that doesn't mean I'll quit appreciating an attractive woman.
Troy, it also frustrates me that there are bisexual people that will not stand up and be counted. They have their nice little marriage with their nice job in the nice part of town. However, speaking in generalities about any group of people is dangerous. Many bisexual people are also activists like you.
When I first came out I identified as bisexual, as I have dated both men and women. I found that I prefer women and now identify as lesbian. I actually had to go to therapy to figure out who to identify! how sad is that? I have always identified myself as gay.
The looks a person gets in the gay communtiy when they say they are "bi" is amazing. People think you are cheap, slutty and cant be faithful. They think you are confused and want to savor gay relationships and have hetero privelidge. Actually, it is VERY difficult to be bi as you have 2 closets to come out from, no one accepts you and everyone hates you! Bis have a hard time standing up for gay rights as they are often shunned in the gay community. Did you know some lesbians will not date a bi girl cause they dont trust them to not throw them over for a man? Its actually sad.
Zerbie, I am so glad you are a vocal part of the community and identify as proud and bi. People do not seem to understand that it is not a choice to be atracted to both sexes, it happens. You fall in love with someone and whatever sex they are does not matter. How much more complete could a human be? To be able to look into both sexes for your soulmate is awesome.
We need to understand that sexuality is fluid and we are all along a continum of straight to gay. Some of us are only completely attracted to opposite sex, some only attracted to same sex and the rest fall in between. That scientifically is aproximately 80% of the populace with 10% gay the other 10% straight.