Originally Posted by paul
. For a bisexual to choose is like saying: "which to you want to keep, your right arm or your left arm."
As Zerbie is trying to explain, it isn't like you have this wonderful choice and you can go either way, rather, you feel a loss if you don't have both. Just like you would have a real void if you were forced to be with a woman, a bisexual person has a very real void if they don't have both.
I think it is harder to be bisexual than it is to be gay in some respects.
I'm not sure I understand you. I think this is true for some, but not ALL who identify as bisexual. I agree with Zerbie: can't choose attraction, but we can choose what we act on. Research seems to suggest that a very small minority of the population is right in the middle of the Kinsey scale. For some bisexual people, monogamy works, because one falls in love with and commits to a specific partner, rather than to a gender. The attraction to both sexes is always there, but not everyone has to have partners of both sexes.....though certainly some do seem to.